""As you all are in time?"" - the most popular question which to me is asked by friends and acquaintances. How to manage to work, be engaged in creativity and to raise two children - read mom's secrets in this article.
Let me cut out to you the most important secret: I am not in time ""all"". I am in time the fact that I important and just do not endure that I was not in time. Here is how it becomes in practice.
1. Place priorities
We will never have enough time to redo all affairs and to carry out all plans. Because we want more, than we can. I just took it for granted: our dreams and aspirations, our duties it is more of ourselves. There is only one: to understand that personally it is more important for you and that will become by the residual principle.
My choice is as follows: 1. Children 2. Work 3. Creativity 4. House and economy 5. All the rest
The first three paragraphs of the list - the most important. If it is necessary for me and there is a wish to write the book right now or to draw, borsch and floors will be waited. Here I want to advise all women to read the book ""Dream Not Harmfully"", the author Barbara Cher where it very intelligibly tells how to understand that personally for you the most important in life.
2. Get assistants
Your assistants are people, things, places and the organization. A secret of a vseuspevaniye of many business mothers, actresses, leaders whom we admire - the nurse, the personal stylist, the makeup artist and the secretary. To us, people it is simpler, grandmothers, game rooms, kindergartens help. Though actually and the kindergarten is not need. And here the grandmother or dad, or the girlfriend ready once a week to undertake your child and to give you three hours of personal time is a small secret for the mothers dreaming of restoration of sincere forces.
As for things, any household appliances reducing your operating time on the house will pay for itself instantly. And let nobody grumbles that it is expensive. Your time - is invaluable.
3. Do not try to be ideal for others
I am not a really good hostess and in general in many places it is far from an ideal. But I understood that I have only one life, and I will not spend it for matching others idea of correct and normal. Of course, it is possible to sleep 4 hours a day and all the time to rustle on the house, not to take eyes from the timer and not to go to bed until in the house all shines to the last spoon. But whether will make it me happy? Whether my children at the same time will be happy? To die of fatigue and not to be valid on what I want personally - it is not for me.
4. Do what is good for you
I live for myself and the closest people. But even the closest do not decide for me as to me to live and what to be engaged in. I do what is correct and convenient at present for our family, but not for others eyes. I simplify, I optimize and I look for an essence, but not a wrapper - it is so possible to describe my view of the world in brief.
5. You keep the small secret
If all ask how all of you are in time - do not hurry to refuse and answer sadly that you are in time nothing. Answer with Mona Lisa's smile: ""So, slowly"". Because if you built the priority list, and they make you happy, then you are already in time everything that is necessary.