Children's fears and strong experiences from the childhood pass into adult and promote emergence of complexes for the rest of life. Parents need to watch closely behavior of the child.
People are pursued by fear still for a long time. Earlier it appeared in dangerous life situations. Now the fear began to have social lines. People began to be afraid of the fire, loneliness, etc.
The first fear begins to be formed in the perinatal period. Psychologists consider that if the loneliness or height frighten, then the darkness will not frighten.
Fears in the perinatal period
It is necessary to avoid stresses on the first terms of pregnancy, these can frighten the child. The good mood influences formation of the child. To prevent children's fears, it is necessary to control a female state at childbirth. The correct breath influences a successful completion of childbirth.
Psychologists consider that an important role in emergence of fears is played by genetics. Besides, fears are influenced by spiritual wounds.
Reasons of children's fears
Initial emergence of fear happens at seven-months children in the absence of mom. From 8 months the baby begins to distinguish the close people, and before unfamiliar the fear appears. In 2 years, nightmares appear, it can be afraid of the dark. To animals the fear in 3 years, and in a year other fears arises.
Some factors belong to the reasons of fears: health, type of education, temperament, features of the personality, etc. It is necessary to watch behavior of the child in various situations and if fears are found, then it is necessary to address the psychologist.
Reasons of fear of loneliness
To the child feeling fear of loneliness presence of mom, her protection is important. If it is absent, then the child feels not necessary. Usually it occurs at timid and impressionable children. Such children clever and with rich imagination, but cannot independently play. Not the busy imagination is capable to cause fears.
The psychological trauma can affect fear of loneliness. The awful scene on TV can injure the child. Also the jealousy of the younger child can cause fear of loneliness. There is a set of psychological injuries which lead to fear of loneliness. Therefore it is heavy to find the true reason.
Task of parents to remind the child of the love. It is necessary to teach the child to be expressed.
Children's nightmares
According to psychologists, the reason of nightmares of a problem in family and a lack of attention of parents. For the child the darkness is a loneliness. The dream is capable to increase or reduce fear. When the child dreams an angry animal who eats him, means in life him strongly criticize or suppress. And if in a dream chase the child then someone from people around absorbs his energy. Maybe the child has the friend who likes to order.
If it is terrible to child to fill up without light, then it is not recommended to switch off it – it will only aggravate a problem. If the child in a dream is late somewhere, he means has a constant stress. It is necessary to provide to the child good rest. But, if bad dreams disturb during a disease, then it is normal. In the morning the child needs to give a clean sheet of paper on which he will draw the fear, and then it should tear and throw out it.
The game "Treasure" is suitable for correction of children's nightmare. The big lamp is for this purpose necessary. Parents have to hide a treasure, and the child to find it. At first it is necessary to look for together with parents, and then most. With a lamp the child will not be afraid to look for a treasure.
Parents need to treat more attentively the child and more often to communicate with him. At emergence of fear it is necessary to fight against it.