It was kind of difficult to undergo the procedure of adoption, the most hard time begins after the child began to live in your family. You should accept the child with all his shortcomings and problems, to help it to adapt to new living conditions. If you show the sequence and rationality in the requirements, the child will try to meet your expectations.
Instruction
1. Do not demand from the child full acceptance of family way at once. Children from orphan institutions got used to live big collective. They can take someone else's clothes and things, and do not see in it anything badly. Someone can hide candies and bread for emergency. Elementary rules of hygiene are not familiar to others. In orphanage once a week and at some the general toothbrushes wash. Softly prompt to the child as it is necessary to make correctly.
2. You watch how there are the child's relations with new relatives. Seldom happens so that all family members are glad to emergence in the house of the adopted child. Especially, it concerns the senior generation. If your parents were categorically against the child, limit them communication at least at first. Let's the child adapt in your family. After he accepts you and will get used, it is possible to acquaint him with relatives and friends. But only lead with them a discussion that it is your choice and it is not discussed. And they can accept it only.
3. If you faced theft, talk to the child. Especially, if it happened in school or kindergarten. Such habits should be eradicated at once, but not punishment. Try to find the true reason of such behavior. Sometimes so children want to draw our attention or to gain authority of peers. Or perhaps the child got from the unfortunate childhood to the full and arranged world. But it seems to it that all this for a while and soon will come to an end.
4. Meet difficulties with endurance, them will be much. It is not enough to take the child in family, it is necessary to learn to love him. And if we love blood children at the level of an instinct, in strangers any trifles can irritate. Learn to control the emotions. Express all discontent with the child in quiet tones. Be not irritated and do not raise on it the voice. The child has to trust you. The senior children are very reserved – in orphan institutions informal conversations are not hosted.
5. Adaptation of the child in new family can take several months, and several years can. At the same time the age of the child often does not matter. Even in the most difficult days do not dare to state a regret at the child that you took it. And especially, never sound a thought to return it back (and you will think of it).