Many parents do not know at all whether correctly they bring up the teenager or not and what their educational process can turn back. And so, to avoid serious problems, it is necessary to know methods of education of the teenage child.
Difficult problem of education of teenagers
As it is got, education is a purposeful influence on the ripening person to create at it certain qualities. Education of teenagers, of course, very difficult task which parents need to solve. Distinctive qualities of teenage age: the increasing aspiration to independence, the feeling of a maturity, aspiration to the sovereignty and self-expression, advantage of the authority of friends before the authority of parents, - force teenagers to revolt almost against everything. Of course it is difficult for parents who are ignored by their children to accept these changes.
How to build a conversation with the teenager?
It is difficult to conduct dialogue with teenagers, but really to make it. There are such ideal families where to bring up the teenager simply and without serious consequences for parents and children where then remember teenage problems with laughter and become good friends and the dearest people on always. It is necessary to try if it is easy not to pass this period then to get closer to this perfection.
Let's analyze as the way of communication established in family influences education of teenagers.
At dictatorial style when all questions in family including concerning the teenager, are implicitly controlled by desire of parents, the independence of the child sharply decreases. Strict control, severe punishments and reprimands lead to big problems. It does not surprise, similar reaction of the teenager can be understood because the most important lines of teenage age – feeling of a maturity and aspiration to independence. Diffident children I gain independence and rigid character, active and intensive children become aggressive and seek to leave as soon as possible a parental nest to get rid of close attention of parents.
At a democratic way of communication in family the responsibility and amateur performance of children are welcomed, they take active part in the solution of family questions, can express the opinion. Of course, it is more correct and positive approach to education of teenagers, but it is necessary to understand a difference between vsedozvolchesky and democratic ways of communication. At a democratic way the parents in the most serious questions show hardness, care for an order and justice, and in the second case nothing is forbidden to the child or he is capable to scorn their opinion. And if the democratic style builds social responsibility and amateur performance, then connivance brings to the fact that teenagers become egoists, they I reject those people who do not satisfy their whim.