The set of articles and literature tells about the relations between children and adults in family. The majority of sources places emphasis on the word "children", already showing these difference between the relations. Yes, it was so led that adult are adults, and children - something special. Beings to whom separate approach and the selective relation are necessary. And whether so it actually?
Really, the little person is more defenseless and needs continued support, love and training. But whether it is worth going to far, treating children as to a crystal vase or, on the contrary, it is necessary to treat for hundred percent them as to full members of family? Whether it is worth allowing the child to problems of adult society or to opposite dump on it all the problems and misfortunes?
The first that is really necessary for the little person, is huge love and constant attention. Even providing him to itself, it is important to let know that adults nearby, anywhere will not get to and are always ready to help and listen.
Food and clothes minor questions, they in many respects depend on wellbeing of family in which the child grows. But, if to think, the great number of happy children grows also in families with limited means.
The little person, that he grew up self-sufficient, should be accustomed since early years to independence. It does not say that everything is done by him, and about what is in its opportunities. For example, in villages to this day the younger generation has duties which they, depending on age, can and have to carry out. Possibly it is trifles and let affairs be executed clumsily, but it allows children to feel like equal participants. Thus children learn the participation in affairs of family.
Control of the child can be exercised differently. It can be unostentatious observation and the direction to the necessary course, and can be in the form of the authoritative report. What will be chosen by the adult for himself? Of course, rather the first.
The style of education of the child in many respects depends on family, her beliefs, belief. But the main thing is an example of parents. How many they would not go on about addictions and their inadmissibility. If they do it, you should not expect from the child of other behavior. Of course, there are cases when in the drinking family the child with alcohol rejection, but who will give guarantees that the specific case will repeat grows up.
And at last, many, trying to bring up the independent child, dump on him all the problems. Say, I hide nothing and I share with him as with equal. The weak mentality of the child only suffers from it, he is morally not ready to charge himself with these problems. Who will grow up from the girl whose mom constantly abuses and calls the father? Most likely she already small will begin to hate all men in the world.