Modern children and teenagers quite closely communicate with the computer. Practically they devote all the free time to games, communication on social networks and to viewing various information.
Despite all precautions, parental control and the other bans, the child can see video intended only for adults. And it does not mean at all that the teenager purposefully looked for video with a mark of XXX, can quite be that it is the foreign advertizing accompanying a game, the unclear reference or video which was shown by the friend, the schoolmate and so forth.
How to behave to parents if the child came for explanations?
First of all, it is necessary to postpone all the affairs what important they would not be. Very it is not simple to child to decide on a conversation with the adult therefore all attention has to be concentrated on it.
If mom or dad are dumbfounded, upset or boil for anger, it is better to postpone a conversation for some time. It is important to communicate with the child in an adequate state. And the refusal of a conversation has to be motivated, it is impossible to send the child to the room without explanations, he can just become reserved and cease to trust the parent.
Psychologists consider that the parent of the same floor has to talk to the child, then the conversation will be simpler to be constructed. You should not wriggle and get off with general phrases, like ""I do not know, or let's talk then"". It is necessary to tell honestly and, whenever possible, quietly that between two close and loving people, besides moral, there are also intimate relations that it is one of marriage components, and what was shown in a pornoroller, there is no norm.
It is necessary to tell the child about that, as in his life there will be intimate relations, but they have to be by agreement, without coercion and on reaching the corresponding age.
Very important for parents: do not ignore to the child and the more so you do not shout at him in such situation. If the child approached with such conversation, then he trusts you and it really needs yours the help and participation. Sit down nearby, embrace or stroke on the head and tell that if there are questions on an intimate subject that you are ready to listen to him and to advise.