All know when other child in family appears, many parents notice inadequate behavior of the firstborn. He worries that it is forgotten by all and superfluous.
Such feelings are the reason of hostile behavior or reserve of the child. First of all it is not necessary to consider jealousy as something unusual, in this place is quite bright manifestation of sincere qualities. It arises because the child loves the parents, in particular mom. If he, on the contrary, is indifferent to the baby, then it means that the child does not wish to love. The firstborn constantly thinks that the new relative constantly tries to force out him, and only thanks to keenness and huge love of mother he will be able to overcome the fears.
Some children who do not like to expose the feelings on display transfers changes in family much more painfully. They cannot share the experiences because of what they are jealous more often. If mom is not able to solve this problem in the childhood, at advanced age it will be much more difficult to be made.
In process of growth of children the jealousy concerning more difficult situations appears. At first it seems that it arises from violation of the existing relations, but then it becomes clear that practically each child dreams of that mom was only it. The child very much wants to feel safe therefore in fight for arrangement of mom the self-preservation instinct works.
Children are very impressionable and sensitive. It is difficult for them to form the types of protection against jealous feelings at such age, can be therefore they very much suffer. A task of parents to give the chance to express this state. By means of granting a way of self-expression the parents will be able to help the child to do without the organization of internal protection.
Emotional feelings of kids have to be splashed out outside, but not be in the child collecting. It is necessary to give to the child an opportunity for manifestation of all feelings which torment him. Controlling anger and jealousy, it is possible to achieve that the child, having passed through it, will cease to be jealous.
It is necessary to bring up so that, providing the small child with such care and an environment with its good guardianship, will give the chance to be to it jealous only when it is worth it.
Developing normally, the child will be able to gain such qualities showing in ambition and rivalry which will give an impetus for the high growth and self-expression.