Some councils about love at first sight can seem cruel. But you should not ignore them. Only after understanding of the simple truth it is possible to become happy in private life.
Often people cannot find personal happiness because of ignorance of psychology of the relations. In communication with an opposite sex sometimes it is necessary to make tough decisions. You should not be afraid of loneliness. Understanding of the simple truth will help to make room for new events, to get rid of those who hurt. Advice of psychologists will help to understand themselves.
Nobody needs the one who is not necessary to himself
To be pleasant to someone, it is necessary to love himself, to accept itself with all merits and demerits. It has nothing in common with narcissism. But confidence will prevent nobody. Only having accepted itself it is possible to live worthy and happy life. To such people the loneliness is not terrible.
To steam of unsuccessful appointments is an occasion not to make the third appointment
If at the first meeting of people was at the best not, with it it was not really comfortable, it is possible to give it a chance to be rehabilitated. But when the situation repeats, it is necessary to think. It is better to break off such communication at once. Nothing good from this will leave. The person will only waste time and will be disappointed. Still psychologists advise to remember: if on the first appointment in the elect any trifles irritate, over time the hostility will only increase.
Communication with married men - loss of time
Many women make a mistake, casting in the lot with men who are not free. It is worth remembering that the wife is not necessary to them, they already have her. Such men just look for the easy relations, flirtation. If it suits the woman and the moral aspect of a question does not confuse, it is possible to try. But it is not necessary to wait for something from such communication.
If with the partner it became difficult, it is better to leave
Over time people change. It is possible to learn about some habits or features of the partner only later time. If with certain things it became difficult to be reconciled, everything began to irritate, it is necessary to break off such communication. Sufferings in love is not norm. People create couples to be happy. It is better to leave the unhealthy, destroying relations in time, than for years to suffer. It is necessary to believe that all changes to good.
Wishing to marry, it is worth stopping thinking about it
The notions of compulsion about a marriage push away men. This truth is known to much, but some girls for some reason persistently ignore it. When the woman sets the purpose to marry, her behavior, the attitude towards itself and partners changes. At the initial stages of the relations the men need ease. If there is no it, they leave to look for it in other place. Experts do not consider norm persuasive desire to marry.
The healthy love is about as far as the person is happy
Many try to measure feelings by the level of sufferings. But the healthy love is about happiness, but not about tortures. And experiences concerning meek feelings, unfaithfulness are only sign of pity to themselves. To love really is to be sincerely interested in a sympathy object. Understanding of such simple truth will help to get rid of a negative.
The normal person does not begin the relations with the one who does not respect him
If the person shows disrespect, affords offensive statements or actions, such communication needs to be interrupted at once. When such moments are found in the course of the relations, it is necessary to tell immediately about it to the partner, to honestly state claims. If the situation does not change, not to save such union any more. The only time in life of each person when he is objectively dependent and when he can be considered a hostage – the childhood. At this time he is dependent on parents, but it lasts rather not for long. In other cases the stay in any relations becomes the conscious choice.
Too high level prevents to construct private life
Himself needs to be loved and respected, but in this question it is important not to overdo. Too high requirements to potential partners prevent to construct private life. You should not forget that each person there are shortcomings. It is only necessary to define for itself what it is possible to reconcile to and that is basic.
People are loved not for the fact that they cave in
Wishing to be pleasant to the partner, caving in before him, renouncing own principles, people prevent to develop to the relations. Love not for humility and readiness always to agree, to support. On the contrary, such behavior pushes away. The paradox is that bitchy women of the man are idolized most often.
The woman who is dissolved in the husband gradually degrades
When the woman makes the decision to refuse work and own interests for the sake of the husband, she strongly risks. If to stay at home for years, degradation is inevitable. With such partner it becomes boring what pushes the man to seek entertainments elsewhere. It also leads to stains. The woman has to have some occupation besides children, the husband, a household. Only in this case it will be possible to keep good relations in family.
If the man is not ready to marry, it is necessary to say goodbye to him
It is not necessary to hope that the beloved will sometime call in marriage. If time from the moment of the beginning of the relations passed enough, partners managed to know well each other, and communication everything cannot reach new level in any way, it is worth bringing the man to this question accurately. When it shows that the marriage does not ascend in its plans, it is better to break off such union. Otherwise it is possible to waste a lot of time, and then strongly to regret about the indecision.
The loneliness is a lack of interest in itself
Many people complain of loneliness. Such feeling can arise also in the course of the relations. Actually loneliness it not absence in life of friends or darling, and loss of interest in. To get rid of this feeling, it is necessary to pay attention to own development, to believe in itself.
In the relations it is not necessary to pretend to be
Desire to prove to the partner own importance can prevent to construct the healthy and happy relations. To find the person, it is not necessary to pretend to be. Otherwise it is necessary to support the put level throughout long time. And it is very difficult. It is necessary to remember that all are worthy happiness and love. It is necessary to find the soulmate only.