Usually the attachment is understood as the certain communication between people attracting and holding two people nearby when in it there is no objective need: there is no feeling of love, there are no common interests, there is no mutual benefit. In the narrow-minded environment the attachment is called most often love or friendship, but, unfortunately, it not always is the truth.
Instruction
1. The attachment is divided into healthy and sick. Under healthy mean very close emotional connection when it is really necessary, at the same time there is a possibility of rather easy disposal of it in case of disappearance of relevance of communication with the person. In a case when the affection for specific people does not bring pleasure, and, on the contrary, causes mental anguish, psychological withdrawal pains, causes fear, it is already about painful attachment. Well also when the attachment imprisons the person of any kind, there is already the most true dependence. The reasons for which such attachments are formed happen the most various, but most often they arise at those people who sincerely believe that such painful form of attachment the most natural.
2. If you are afraid to become dependent on other person, you have to know why so occurs. There is an opinion of psychologists that painful attachments are nothing else as the true love forced by replacement at those who are not able to love actually and do not want to study because love people just like that, giving all the most tender feelings and heat, not demanding feedback. And only at painful attachment the need for the return, just the same reaction and when it is absent is very sharply felt, sufferings and torments begin. Therefore the most important rule in a game under the name "How Not to Become Attached to People" is need to learn to love without counterclaim of unconditional return feeling. Only having learned not to wait for anything from people, it is possible to save itself from painful dependences.
3. The second important rule at fight against attachments is existence or understanding of own meaning of life. And cultivation in itself dependences or pathological addictions to other people because, according to psychologists, it is that other as artificially created visibility of meaning of life should not be meaning of life.
4. When you long communicate with the person and begin to understand that you ceased to breathe and live without him, you have to eradicate such thoughts at once. Be always ready that sooner or later, he all the same will leave you, just as left others. People imperceptibly come to your life and imperceptibly leave it, and their place is taken by others. If you initially give yourself installation that your communication is temporary, loss of the loved one will not cause in you so much pain and sufferings.
5. Be not obsessed with a subject of the adoration. Try to occupy yourself with interesting affairs and to communicate with other people. If you live only to them one, the termination of this communication will leave only emptiness, you just will remain alone with the thoughts and experiences.