Word – the strongest weapon. Wounds which it gives sometimes do not heal for years. The strangest is that sometimes words offend not purposely. That work on itself was effective, it is necessary to learn what words will wound people.
Instruction
1. Most often people communicate in family and at work. If with relatives everything is clear, then to adapt to each unfamiliar or just foreign person quite difficult. But there are certain methods, having studied which, it is possible to understand how not to offend the person a word.
2. First of all, do not try to expose someone even if you know that the person, to put it mildly, exaggerates. It will not bring any notable results – to change the created personality moreover and without her consent, it will not turn out. So why to heat the relations, calling into question the words of another if it is possible just to keep silent. Of course, if the situation does not threaten you or someone to the third with a trouble.
3. To understand what words will wound people quite simply. Put yourself to the place of the interlocutor. How would you react to sharp criticism, pejorative tone or inappropriate laughter? Even if you do not agree with someone, you should not express the opinion so that to make the interlocutor out a fool. If on its place there are you, it will hardly please you.
4. Often it is necessary to communicate with excessively talkative persons. And, such people not necessarily gossip or report news. They can just retell all the known fact long ago, irritating with it people around. If it is impossible to exclude such personality from the circle, just silently listen to the next portion of banalities. Obryvaniye, the explanation or criticism will only tighten already tiresome conversation.
5. There are persons who as air need to share joy even with unfamiliar people. Much the similar manner is unclear and can cause aggressive reaction or a sneer. Never laugh at people what insignificant would not be in your eyes of their achievement. Better just congratulate and wish new heights in career / the personal relations / education of children. The person to be satisfied with it and his inspired speech will be twice shorter.
6. Sometimes the aspiration to share joy flows in a vainglory. Here it is more difficult to understand how not to offend the person a word if he frankly irritates. In such situation will save benevolent humour. If the person does not understand and continues to brag, it is possible to try to draw a blanket on itself. As soon as you begin to expatiate on own talents, the interlocutor will quickly lose to you interest and will find the new victim.
7. Never try "to speak straight from the shoulder" in eyes if someone's life does not depend on it. For what purpose you want to tell the employee what carried her how a pig, and the sister to the wife's brother/brother what she / he is a personality with limited mental capacities? Would you likeWould you likeWould you like, having blackened another, it is more favorable to look on its background? Similar approach will inevitably lead to the conflicts and will turn back against you.