How often you catch yourself on a thought that any trifle can become the cause of quarrels in your family? It is simple to offend close people, to whom as not to relatives the weakest points of each other are known. But whether it is worth doing it?
Instruction
1. Remember that friends can come and leave, and dear people will be those for the rest of life. The most difficult minute, as a rule, only they remain a row to help you to keep afloat. Why to offend those, is closer than whom at you is not present? Listen to the words of the famous writer Kurt Vonnegut: "Be complacent with the brothers and sisters – they your best communication with the past and those which, most likely, will be near you in the future."
2. People can state to relatives the annoying words, as well as share something intimate. It occurs because trust degree in the relations with the family is high, already since the childhood almost everyone should hear that "the native person will not betray", "parents of bad will not advise", etc. Perhaps, because of relationship the close people cannot but forgive or at least not accept bad tricks of the relatives. Not to complicate the relation, during disputed issues try to weigh the words even if you are provoked by close people with not the most smooth character.
3. It is better for "eternal" dispute of fathers and children to treat some conflicts philosophically, for example. In similar situations it is better to abstract and estimate the events from outside. Especially as in disputes on "eternal" subjects hardly you will come to some harmonious agreement. Both parents, and children have to remember that the fashion is changeable, customs depend on change of times, etc. That it was less offenses, parents have to be for the children an example, and children should become a subject of pride of parents.
4. It is unlikely on light there will be a big family in which there were even no small quarrels and offenses. As completely it will not be possible to avoid the conflicts, learn to apologize and forgive close people. This ability, certainly, demands great efforts, but is valuable what helps to think of harm of excessive irascibility. Try to bypass "sick" subjects, paying instead attention to congratulations, warm words and reminders on your love.