That you were saved on the desert island, it is necessary to kindle fires, to leave inscriptions huge letters on the sandy beach. But if the Island is quite Inhabited, and the help, perhaps, should ask from the representative of other floor, then it is necessary to consider some nuances. If the Woman exclaims: "To me it is bad!" - the man can not guess at once that she needs first of all – to provide first aid, to put on clean clothes, or to rush to look for the vehicle to help to reach there from where arrived. And can wave away from a request and go further the own way. That nothing similar with you happened not only on the desert island, but also in everyday life, it is necessary to learn to state the requests for the help correctly, considering what floor your interlocutor treats.
Instruction
1. It is necessary to ask the man about the help not from the description of an emotional state in which you are because of the arisen problem, and from statement of in what difficulty which forced you to address it consists.
2. It is not necessary to state a request so as if you order to the person to you to help, or you suggest it to make it, just ask about the help without excess hints and comments.
3. You say specifically about what you expect from the man: physical help, financial or moral.
4. I will constantly deny to you assistance if you begin to abuse and reproach the person whom you address.
5. It is worth requesting the help to the woman a little differently that you were heard and understood correctly. First of all, it is necessary to show, the help in a solution, in what emotional state is how important for you you are now.
6. The woman can ask the most unexpected for you the questions concerning your request, to offer several solutions which at first sight can seem absurd, but it makes sense to listen to them nevertheless.
7. Women can console and sympathize therefore be ready besides the help in the question concerning you, to get also moral support.