About the mother-in-law so many familiar expressions, songs, jokes are put. It is already rather a common noun. Sometimes the mother-in-law and the son-in-law conduct among themselves long-term and uncompromising struggle for influence on the woman who for one is a daughter, for another – the wife. But this family triangle, internal opposition can quite be avoided.
Instruction
1. It is necessary to realize that the son-in-law is a man who was chosen by the daughter, and it is her choice which needs to be respected. You like the son-in-law or not, the main thing – it is pleasant daughters, she loves it, she is happy. Build up the relationship with the son-in-law on respect, understanding, kindness.
2. Learn to be self-controlled, the feelings. Women are more impulsive, more emotionally than men, often the first provoke the conflicts. Situations when the son-in-law shows aggression, meet much less often. But it he can become, responding to sharp attacks in the party.
3. Keep yourself from desire to interfere with the relations of the daughter and her husband, from rushes to make remarks, to teach, to point to something. Also do not incite the daughter against the husband. The ability to be self-controlled will give the chance to avoid the conflicts.
4. Remember that your son-in-law grew up in other family, with other way, life priorities. He is the created person and does not want it to be brought up, "adjusted" to themselves. Especially he does not want the mother-in-law to interfere with its relations with the wife. Understand that your councils have to be just councils, but not the management to their immediate execution. The right to make the decision has to belong to the daughter and the son-in-law.
5. Not to lead life of the children, not to consider participation in all events and affairs of family of the daughter the debt, do not narrow a circle of the interests, be engaged in what is pleasant to you that brings joy: flower cultivation, embroidery, work, sport. Keeping activity of own life, you will be able to avoid absolute immersion in others life, will not "smother" the care and guardianship either the daughter, or the son-in-law, or grandsons.
6. Nobody forces to love the son-in-law. You love the daughter. So first of all before starting a quarrel with the son-in-law, think of it, of its feelings, do not humiliate the man chosen by it.
7. Show wisdom, sensitivity and tactfulness. Not easy to admit to family in fact foreign person, to learn to be not easy the mother-in-law, and the good mother-in-law - especially. But try - so you keep happiness of the daughter, her family life.