Your husband began a thicket to be late at work? Leaves to speak by phone to other room or constantly carries it with itself? Unexpectedly began to present expensive gifts though before it did not do? All this signs that at your narrowed on the party the mistress appeared. Many lawful wives who appeared in such situation are interested in a question: Whether "It is worth speaking with the seductress of the husband or to neglect everything?"
The rash decision to talk to the spouse's mistress
Information on treason of the husband, first of all, causes a storm of negative emotions. Any woman, having learned about such treachery, can make rash acts. One of them – to meet a razluchnitsa, to arrange her a hysterics and to send where far away. In a temper it is possible to make anything, but if the relations with the husband are expensive to you and you are not ready to divorce him, best of all to calm down and begin to think objectively.
Options of succession of events
The first, you have to understand that any your action, especially wrong, can lead to irreversible consequences. Having called the mistress, you will give her a reason to exult as she will feel that morally more largely lawful wife if it has long-term plans for your man. She will understand that you it is aware of the events too and will begin to act more actively, warming up in you hatred even more.
All this negative will become the reason of house scandals and will even more alienate you from the spouse who will think that his wife became absolutely intolerable. As a result – a divorce.
Other option of succession of events: you came round, all weighed and decided to call or meet after all the husband's mistress, having adjusted themselves on a quiet conversation. How do you think whether it is worth doing it? And what the competitor will respond to the offer to leave your husband alone? Correctly, she, most likely, will also not listen to you. If the girl or the woman dared to get the relations with the married man, she is initially absolutely indifferent to feelings of other people, in particular, to your sufferings. This meeting can lead only to decrease in your self-assessment. There are also such cases when the mistress does not know that her elect is married. It happens, but is extremely rare. Even under these circumstances the conversation with the husband's darling will not lead to anything. Usually men do not speak to the mistresses about wives as very much to be afraid to lose them.
Here it is important to understand whether there were with your husband to you any feelings. If he learns from the beloved what you with her told, then the result can be very deplorable.
And still, when all feelings will settle and the situation finally will be solved in your advantage, do not remind the husband at each opportunity of its treason. All people are mistaken, the main thing that your husband as a result made a right choice. If you after all did not manage to reach darling, try to release him. You know how say: "Love cannot be ordered".