Statistics says that every second marriage in Russia breaks up therefore the probability that it happens to you, is very high. If the husband left family, it does not mean at all that he was an initiator of a gap. It is quite probable that to this step he was pushed by your behavior. If the divorce was not yet, then the hope for reconciliation is.
1. Think why so it happened. The analysis of the reasons which led to leaving of the husband the house will help you to correct the incident or to draw conclusions and to try not to make any more these mistakes. Sometimes you the behavior and words could provoke its leaving. Think whether it found, having come back home about works, tranquility and a cosiness. Perhaps, he was met by eternally angry and whimsical wife who could not even prepare to eat to its arrival. Having married, the man has the right to expect of you love, caress and desire to take care. If he does not receive it, then such life ceases suit him.
2. Try to give an objective assessment to yourself as to the wife. Do not do guilty only the man. If you have no claims how you fulfilled the part of duties, then the reason of a gap could become the fact that you just zapilit the husband and constant cavils just forced it to leave. Men should be brought up too as children. Often they owing to the employment and features of psychology do not notice those trifles because of which any woman can be upset very strongly. Instead of quietly talking to it and to explain the discontent, you suited hysterics which just caused misunderstanding in your husband and he ran away from you, having slammed the door.
3. If all this was quite so, then we can please you – still is lost nothing. Spontaneous leaving says that he, loving you, was tired to be constantly with you in a condition of confrontation. He did not see other way to stop it. It is hard to feel always wrong and to doubt that you love it. If he still hopes that you are ready for dialogue and recognition of own mistakes, he will surely agree to meet you and to discuss current situation.
4. In case you love it and want to hold, then be well prepared for this meeting. It should not take place in the same tone at all, as well as all your previous quarrels. It is not necessary to bring it the charges and claims – he heard them already many times. Just tell him about the love and understanding of those mistakes which you made. Try to agree that between you there should not be offenses and half-words, you together have to discuss what does not suit you in each other and your joint life. Make concessions each other - it is and there is a manifestation of love and confirmation of desire to start everything anew.