Modern society treats men's unfaithfulness quite loyally, and some representatives of a strong half of mankind even like to boast the number of the ladies subdued by them, despite presence of the wife. Most often behind treason of the spouse only desire of novelty and anything else lies. Women's unfaithfulness is a business another. Seldom what lady goes on it only because of sex, the majority seeks elsewhere that it receives less in family.
Instruction
1. The reasons for which for the man the betrayal of the wife is similar to accident are in human nature. In fauna the male who copulated with several females is considered a strong and successful individual. And if that whose debt obliges to be with it leaves him even, in terms of biology its value is not big. And though the person stood apart from other mammals long ago, subconsciously these laws continue to work.
2. Having learned that the wife had another, try to appease the wounded self-esteem and to talk quietly to the spouse. Perhaps, you would also like to fall upon her with reproaches, however, if you hope to keep marriage, it will not help business. Discuss what does not suit your wife in family life and whether it is possible to correct it. It is quite probable that the extramarital affair was fleeting, and the woman managed to consider it a mistake.
3. In case both spouses do not want to lose each other, you can start the relations with a clean slate. Now between you there should not be last offenses – forget about them and nevermore bring up this subject. You can pretend that you got acquainted with this woman only recently and you build the new relations.
4. If the incorrect spouse became in the gentleman from outside seriously interested, and all of you still love her and want to return to the family center, act. Try to find out, than she was attracted by other man. Perhaps, he gallantly looks after and gives flowers, or the woman can discuss the problems concerning her with him. Become better than him. As the spouse already chose you once, it is quite probable that she will make it again.
5. Not all are capable to forgive treason. If the incorrectness of the wife became for you a bolt from the blue, meanness to which you cannot reconcile, disperse. For a start you can separately live some time to understand yourself. Realize that is more expensive to you: the good name or incorrect spouse. And if the choice not in favor of the last, file for a divorce, do not torment either yourself, or the woman.