It is easier for sociable people to try to obtain something in life. A lot of things are tied in society on communications. However also such individuals who are glad meet to learn to contact successfully to people around, but do not know how. Small secrets of effective communication will help to cope with problems of finding of approach to other people.
1. Learn to listen. Oddly enough, but in ability not only the ability it is clear and accurately to express own thoughts, but also talent to listen to the interlocutor is important to communicate. Do not interrupt the person at all. Give him an opportunity to express, and then ask questions.
2. Be able not just to listen, but also to hear. Do not pretend that you listen to words speaking, and actually all inside perceive its phrases. Having got used to the speech of the interlocutor, you will be able to hear more, than he wants to tell. By words, which he repeats most often, you learn what disturbs the person at present. On intonational shades you will be able to judge his mood.
3. Express the thoughts accurately and clear. Build a logical chain of the phrases in mind and adhere to this structure. Convince by means of the facts, banish on experience of other people.
4. Work on the voice. Believe, sometimes people turn attention to how the person speaks, it is even more, than on contents of the text. Let your tone will be low, chest. Such voice causes trust and sympathy in people. Take average speed. You will chatter, listeners will not manage to follow your narration. You will begin to hesitate and stretch phrases, you risk to exasperate audience and to lose its attention.
5. You approach the choice of a subject attentively. Make sure thatMake sure that it is interesting to the interlocutor, and you watch that he vividly participated in its discussion. You learn to watch degree of the involvement of the person into a conversation and in time to finish a conversation before it bores the individual.
6. Be a pleasant, tidy person. You watch accuracy of the clothes and footwear, not persistence of perfume and freshness of breath. Time of a problem with communications arise because interlocutor is unpleasant to the person. You learn to cause sympathy. Smile, accept open poses, an easy inclination of the case towards the interlocutor show the favor in relation to it.
7. Learn to tell stories interestingly. At the same time important not only to watch a chain of events, but also to add an emotional component to the story. Involve intonation, a mimicry, gestures.