Even during an era of unconditional domination of men there were women not only applying for a role of the leader of family, but also successfully coping with it. Another thing is that female housewives had to try to obtain it in a roundabout way, carefully hiding the ambitions not to undergo public condemnation. Now the wife in most cases works on an equal basis with the husband, and at times makes a bigger contribution to family cash desk. If it by nature vigorous, with strong character, then often applies for a role of the leader in the relations.
Instruction
1. First of all, both the husband, and the wife should remember firmly what to be the leader does not mean at all "to suppress, oppress, slight". Family not army and the more so not the prison, the relations like "order of the chief – the law for the subordinate" are inappropriate and inadmissible here. Marriage is art of a compromise, and the leader should make not so much orders how many to convince of the correctness.
2. To be leader to take, so all completeness of responsibility for family. How the leader will cope with the task, depends how successful and family life will be safe. Therefore both the husband, and the wife should weigh, estimate the abilities, opportunities soberly. For example, if the husband delicate, timid, on the verge of weak character, he hardly has to say: "I am a man therefore we will have everything in my opinion!" Especially, if the wife, as opposed to it, vigorous, resolute, penetrative. But also it is just a shame to wife to apply for leadership, to force the husband to arrive in own way, resorting to such female weapon as scandals, hysterics, tears.
3. It is better to agree in advance in what disputable cases the decisive word will be for the wife and in what – for the husband. It will help to prevent unnecessary quarrels.
4. The leader has to behave quietly, frostily, surely, nothing – neither behavior, nor voice, nor gestures, without showing confusion. At the same time he has to be able briefly, distinctly and convincingly to explain why it is necessary to arrive exactly as it is represented to it correct. Without this ability even not to stammer at claims one leadership better.