People often bring an oath of eternal love and fidelity each other. And sincerely hope that all and will be. However are capable to keep such relations to death not all... In recent years the fidelity "became fashionable" again. The reason is not only in fear of AIDS and other STD, and in belief. It is so important to know that nearby there is a person who can be trusted. But how to behave if darling after all changed?
1. Try to be convinced of what the man changes you precisely. If it is confirmed, behave and do not panic though it and not simply. Do not row at all and do not arrange hysterics - such behavior will not lead to anything good but only will heat a situation.
2. If the husband changed, but does not want to destroy family and to lose you, think what pushed him on treason. Perhaps, you refuse to the spouse sex, give attention a little or too strongly sponsor him? You have to understand mistakes and try to correct them.
3. If the man not just changed, and fell in love with other woman and wants to be with her, release him. You do not revenge the beloved and his new passion. It will not lead to anything good and, perhaps, will return to you a boomerang. Also do not beg it to remain and do not blackmail, for example, with children. You remember, in separation your spouse can understand that to him it is bad without family. Then he will return and will apologize. In this case only to you to make the decision, and the further relations will depend only on you.
4. Listen to councils of psychologists. Here some of them: - Do not mourn old, happy times as to try to return the past senselessly. The changed man is already at all not that person with whom you were so happy. If you want to recover love, first of all change, and then go for restoration of the relations. - Do not expel the spouse from the life. If you want to hold the man, do not make him "emotionally homeless". The neglect will not lead to favorable resolving the situation. - Talk to the husband. Do not turn to him a back in anger and offense. You stick to each other if you want to save the relations. - Do not reproach the partner with what occurred. Give him an opportunity to quietly analyze current situation. It is very important for the further relations. - Do not turn into the passive victim. From the constant conflicts and their permission there can quite be a new situation.
5. Of course, you can quite leave the husband, and can reconcile to his unfaithfulness and live, taking it for granted. But think, whether you should keep such relations? Some women forgive treason, being guided by common opinion which says: "All men have a bit on the side". Someone is reconciled with it for the sake of children. Weigh everything pros and cons and make only the right decision.