All people marrying hope and believe that they will have a strong, close-knit family. Alas, so happens not always. Relentless statistics demonstrates: nearly every second marriage breaks up. The reasons for that can be much. But now a conversation not about it. How to behave if reached a divorce? How to make so that this sad, painful event did not turn into deadly enemies of two people who were once loving each other?
Instruction
1. First, to you it is necessary to understand accurately and clearly: a divorce – very unpleasant, even painful, a thing, but not doomsday. Life goes on.
2. Secondly, it is necessary to remember: civilized, respecting themselves, people even in a difficult situation arrive adequately. It is clear and natural to shift aspiration all fault to "this villain" or "this creep". You are tormented by offense, the hurt pride, mental anguish. Moreover often parents, friends and girlfriends set on: "You so much for it made, and it!", "You so many for it offered, and it!". Overcome this temptation. Find forces to leave adequately, without indecent scenes and squabbles. Believe: it will be better for you!
3. The former husband and the wife who sling mud at each other and for months, years have legal proceedings then because of property, do not cause either respect, or sympathy. At best – fastidious pity. Really you want that quite so treated you?
4. And, above all – if you have small children, then your divorce already was for them a terrible shock. The world, such habitual and cozy, failed suddenly. If the father and mother – two closest persons, are always on the lips an instinct – "absolute protection", not only dispersed, but also began to hate the friend's arches! Think that now your kids test. To them and it is so bad, do not force them to suffer even more.
5. Therefore, if you resolved that it is impossible to live together and senselessly, leave properly. Let you will not divide a shelter and a bed any more, it is not an occasion to see in each other the enemy. Quietly, without shouts and reproaches, try to resolve all vital issues: how to divide property, who and when will spend time with children. And – solve, without attracting "support group" acting through relatives and friends.
6. And once again: resist the temptation to turn children into the revenge tool! Only to yourself worse you will make. They when grow up, it will not forgive you.