For the loving spouse the divorce becomes a real crash and is perceived as the crash of all life. Especially hard it is necessary women because, as a rule, they are worse provided financially. And responsibility for the fate of children lays down generally on mothers.
Instruction
1. If the husband told you that he leaves family because fell in love with other woman, do not try to persuade him to remain, be not humiliated, do not appeal to pity – it will be very serious mistake. If you convince him that commit suicide as soon as it goes beyond a door, perhaps, the husband will remain this time, but hardly your life will be happy. He will not stop loving that woman, but will begin to consider himself the victim of own nobility and your blackmail.
2. Make its decision, agree that each of you has the right for the life. Perhaps, other woman will make him happy, and then it would be of you wrong to interfere him with leaving. On the other hand, the decision on a divorce can be a mistake, and the husband will want to return to you. Then he will already elicit your indulgence, and you – to listen to its justifications.
3. If you have children, make everything that the divorce concerned them as little as possible. Explain to them that the father loves them still, will live however in other place. Do not try to blackmail the husband with the ban on meetings with children – not the fact that he in general will want to see them until in new family "honeymoon" ends. If the husband loves children and wants to communicate with them, do not disturb him, do not deprive of children of communication with the father – they will be affected party.
4. Take care that children did not suffer financially. If the husband does not wish to pay alimony in full and intends to hide the true amount of income, you can appeal to court with the requirement to establish the fixed amount of alimony. Consult to the lawyer what measures can be taken in this case.
5. Do not dare to turn into the victim of the great destroyed love. You – not the victim, and the hostess of own life. Load yourself useful or pleasant occupations that less time remained on pity to itself. Very well sports activities – fitness, skis, swimming, skates, the bicycle help. Active holiday in the fresh air promotes production of hormones of joy – endorphins.
6. Perhaps, you were a hobby which you threw because of a lack of time. Return to the hobby and try to find adherents – positive communication will help you to return to normal life.
7. Find people to whom it is worse, than to you, and help of the Divorce – not the biggest misfortune with life. Perhaps, situations in it will convince you of other families, and the active sympathy and the help will help to distract with own experiences.
8. Do not forget that the husband left to other woman with all the shortcomings and strangenesses, and, therefore, she is waited by unexpected opening when the rose and candy stage of their relations ends.