One of the most terrible misfortunes which can only happen to the person is the death of the child. After that it is extremely heavy to return to former life, many people do not cope without assistance. Nevertheless, parents need to get it together and to try to cope with a grief.
Instruction
1. Experience of a grief is a long process which can conditionally be divided into four stages. The first stage is shock and catalepsy. It lasts about a week, perhaps, for couple of days longer. Then there comes the second stage – denial. The parent refuses to believe that the son died. It lasts on average up to forty days then there comes the third stage – accommodation of pain. The person learns to cope with the grief, gets used to live in new conditions. Somewhere in half a year there comes the fourth stage – pain relief. It lasts about one year. Kind of to you it was not heavy, you remember that there will pass time, and you will inevitably lighten. It is only necessary to wait.
2. Ask for the help the psychotherapist – quite possibly that that will appoint to you treatment by means of antidepressants. Visit groups of the parents who lost children. There you will be able to be uttered in an environment of people who tested the same grief and will be able to understand you. If you live in the small town, and you have no similar groups, be registered at a forum where mothers and fathers who lost sons and daughters communicate.
3. Get rid of sense of guilt. Many parents begin to represent that their child would be alive, do not make they any given act. "If we did not present it the bicycle, he would not be run over by a car", "if I only did not allow it to go for a walk that evening", "if only I taught the son to swim last summer". Only owners of supernatural abilities can blame themselves for what they could not expect. Ordinary people should reconcile to the fact that accident resulted from coincidence of a set of factors, and it is not their wine.
4. Mental anguish can be compared to the exercise bike: you twist pedals, at you the mass of forces leaves, but the bicycle all the same stands still. Many mothers and fathers are obsessed with the grief, they live them, without noticing anything around. Make to yourself a day regimen, temporarily without loading themselves with hard intellectual and physical work. Have more a rest. Afford times to show weakness. Gradually pain will cease, and you will be able to continue to live.