To forget the guy even if the relations with it lasted several years, quite really. And no more, than in a month. And in parallel with "zabyvaniye" it is possible to find couple of useful skills and habits.
Parting, irrespective of who became his initiator, serious spiritual wounds for both. But though it will be heavy at first, to put an end to itself and you should not go to a long-term depression. "At you such will be a lot", - grandmothers at an entrance note, and they are right. And to believe it was simpler than their word, and to endure a rupture of the long-term relations with the guy without nervous breakdowns, it is possible to divide conditionally the next month lives into two stages
Stage 1: Formation of memoirs
It is good when in memory there were only positive moments of the relations. It is worse when in the head the continuous negative and desire at a meeting climbs to ispolosovat to the former beloved the person the razor becomes stronger every minute. Not to break from coils, to begin a stage of formation of memoirs better with attempts to remember all good that happened to you during the relations.
Later from all positive that managed to be remembered, it is necessary to remove mentally the moments it seems: "We went to a skating rink", "We ate cotton candy". It is necessary to leave only the memorable moments of type: "It forced me to leave off smoking", "He taught me to drive", etc. Independently to create from an image of the superman assistant who was a certain phantom. It seems that it is difficult to substitute memoirs. In practice you do it regularly, but at the intuitive level. Striking example of "reflex" substitution of memoirs: "I did not recover, I such always was, I have a wide bone".
Stage 2: Ideal materialization
The heading sounds frighteningly, but not everything is as confused as can seem at first sight. The materialization of an ideal is only inventing to itself the new hero guy who is capable to paint your already tremendous life in new shades. To materialize, or to think out, an ideal it is possible on the basis of favourite book heroes and characters from popular series. It can be completely mythical. The main thing that it was. Behind process of creation in thoughts of the one and only dream male it will be possible to pass away time and at last to dismiss not the ideal former beloved. And also it is considered that if there is a wish for something, then it obligatory will be presented by destiny. Therefore it is necessary not to forget to be prepared morally for appearance of the ideal man on the horizon. About two weeks are allocated for each of stages. Though if it was succeeded to create the necessary memoirs quicker, then the second stage will fly by quickly at all, and the meeting with the thought-up superman happens many times quicker, than in 30 calendar days.