In life practically each person it is forced faces a lie, however sometimes there are situations when this problem is felt most sharply. Most often it concerns cases when how to forgive deception, the further relations depend.
Instruction
1. Sort out, the lie which it is necessary to forgive is how essential. If this deception categorically contradicts the available vital values, perhaps, simpler to break off the relations with deceived, than to try to forgive it. Otherwise the feeling of treachery will pursue and further.
2. The universal answer to a question of whether it is possible to forgive a lie, does not exist. Each person selects the ways, but it is necessary to begin with attempt to understand deceived. If it is possible to understand what reasons pushed him to a lie, it will be a little easier to forgive.
3. Before forgiving a lie, analyze a situation and try to understand that this fact already took place. And kind of it was boleznenen, it will not be possible to change something in this situation any more. Therefore it does not make sense to look for the causes of the event in himself simply - it will even more aggravate a situation: it is necessary just to accept and try to forgive. Remember that the deceived person went to a lie not deliberately to hurt, and for the purpose of concealment of the offenses therefore blame in the circumstances it is completely laid on it whatever justifications were. Understanding of this fact will help to dull unpleasant feelings.
4. Try to erase this unpleasant incident from memory. If with the deceived person the further relations are planned, then it is necessary to forget finally and irrevocably about a lie. Over time the taken place event will stop being so relevant, and the lie will be perceived only as unpleasant misunderstanding.
5. Never reproach the person with this offense: if the lie became known, then he also will feel remorse so. Continuous reproaches can finally spoil also so torn relations. It is necessary to forgive finally, or to stop the relations with deceived not to torment itself.