If you married the man who was earlier married, it means that he behind shoulders has not only an experience of family life, but also the ex-wife, and it is possible also children from first marriage. What to do if your family happiness is spoiled by the third wheel - his former spouse? She constantly calls him, makes appointment, asks about the help and forces you to be jealous. How to arrive in such situation?
Instruction
1. Find out the reasons of the woken-up interest of the ex-wife to yours (already to yours, but not it!) to the husband. The fact is that often the women who lost at the time interest in the husbands and decided to divorce them sometimes start having over again to them feelings after understood that their former blessed interest other women. And if the ex-wife sees that her place was taken by the smart woman, it can provoke emergence of feeling of property and attempt to return the former relations. Other case - when the woman at the expense of the husband thrown by her, seeks to increase self-respect, and provokes it to begin with her everything with the beginning, having left the new wife, that is you. This usual desire to stand out before admirers or girlfriends, the man who did not lose to the former beloved of interest will throw everything and will run to her on her first call.
2. Soberly estimate feelings which the husband has to you. For certain, marrying the specific man, you were sure that he fell in love with all the heart and will not leave you for the sake of the ex-wife. You some time met it till marriage and managed to study its character and habits. You with pleasure look after him and appreciate him it what it is. If you are sure that you love it and do not want to lose and also feel in reply mutual strong feelings, then it is necessary to stock up with patience and gradual ""to neutralize"" the ex-wife.
3. Combine efforts, your with the husband. First of all it is necessary to talk frankly to the husband and to explain to him why you do not accept his communication with the ex-wife. If the man values you, he will understand everything and will do everything possible to protect you from excess experiences. From now on you have to become a whole and ""struggle"" together with the former spouse. For example, if she constantly asks for help of your husband, he can quietly explain to her that every time to it to the aid is not able to run at top speed. Do not wave away from its requests, just carry out them together. You will show every time to the ex-wife that feelings are so strong that all of you halve cares. Gradually the request which was about the help will descend on ""no"". Ask the husband to take you on all appointment which this woman makes him. At personal contact be benevolent to her, let it know that you wish it personal good luck with which and to you, by the way, it will become easier to breathe.
4. Do not limit communication of the husband with his children. It is known that ""the former children"" are not. If your darling spends with children much time, and respectively, and with their mother, do not reproach him with it. It is just necessary to arrange its leisure with children so that it was outdoors the former spouse. For example, it is possible to buy it and to children subscriptions to the pool, regularly to organize them excursions, picnics, visits of cinema and theater and many other things. Of course, all organizing activity will lay down on your shoulders, but thus you will be able to adjust warm relationship with the husband's children who will see that they to you are not indifferent. Protect your family happiness!