The awkward age is difficult both for teenagers, and for their parents. Hormonal explosion does children, especially boys, more nervous and aggressive, and the changes happening to an organism sometimes spoil appearance of the child, adding to all psychological difficulties also diffidence.
How to help the son to experience difficulties of awkward age
Boys take the changes happening to own organism often quite painfully. That for the son there were shock no morning wet dreams, emergence of hairs on a chin and change of a voice, talk to it about puberty in advance. Explain that there is nothing unusual in it. All children mature, turn into teenagers, becoming more and more similar to adults every year.
Tell that there will be not only physiological changes, but also psychological. The son will want to become more independent, to escape from under guardianship of parents, to spend with friends more time. In it there is also nothing unusual or terrible. Try to inform the child that his changes do not influence your love in any way, he can always address for support and council, having even become absolutely adult.
Try to become the friend to the son, do not forbid to bring home guests, even encourage these meetings. Then the teenager will be always in the public eye and will not get to the bad company.
Try to sponsor less at the time of growing the son. The excessive attention at this age is perceived as attempt to impose something - opinion, option of actions, etc. And the teenager wants to understand everything. Give him certain freedom, but at the same time always support him if he about it asks. If between parents and children there are a trust and respect, then nothing terrible independence of teenagers will be resulted. Reasonable children try not to upset relatives too with extreme tricks and share all experiences with parents. The task of the adult is to listen to the narration by the teenager without abuse and shouts. Even if there was something extraordinary, scandal will correct nothing. Tell about own feelings from the event better, explain that to you it is terrible for the son, you worry and want to help. After that together with the child try to find a way out of current situation. Having seen such relation, the teenager will understand that you can be trusted. He will tell you about everything, and you should not control each its step secretly or obviously.
Support the son at school. Even if he not very well studies - do not abuse him in the presence of teachers and other parents. It is similar to public execution. All problems solve houses, without giving a reason the stranger for sneers at your child.
How to help the son to adapt to physical changes
If the teenager told you that at him the beard and mustache began to grow - congratulate him and present good shaving set. This attribute of the adult man very much will please the son. He will estimate that treated to its young growth seriously, without having forced to use one razor with the father or without having handed the cheap disposable machine. Except hairs on a face with which it is quite simple to cope pimples can "decorate" skin of the teenager. Increase in hormone of testosterone influences also their emergence. It is necessary to deal with this problem, the son already very much wants to be pleasant to girls. If there is a lot of pimples, consult with the dermatologist. He will prescribe medicine - ointments and tablets which will help to reduce quantity of eels considerably. Provide to the son freedom in the choice of clothes. There passed time when you chose to it panties and T-shirts. Now teenagers put on depending on belonging to subculture, try to be stylish, bright, fashionable. Do not forbid it to the son. Clothes - the most harmless way of self-expression.