Can keep an impenetrable look in the most extreme situations unless the professional intelligence agents and philosophers released from terrestrial cares. However skills of this art significantly facilitate life and to ordinary people.
Instruction
1. Motivation. The person has to realize accurately the reasons for which he tries to conceal the inner world from others. Perhaps, it is shame of the perfectionist who does not want others to know about his weaknesses. Perhaps, this desire to protect itself from attacks of people around. Perhaps, the person just is not able to show the emotions, in family did not teach to speak about the requirements and feelings. After understanding of the reasons of people can appeal to the psychotherapist to help it as it is possible to articulate better the feelings, requirements, desires and dreams.
2. To choose a mask. To get on in complex collective, sometimes it is necessary to be masked. For example, ""strong woman"" or ""diplomat"", ""soul of the company" "or" "frictionless clear head"". Only the person knows what of these images is most convenient to him, meets his temperament and internal requirements: to console, be useful or to feel approval of people around. It is important to remember that sometimes the mask grows to skin. We this what we want to seem.
3. To weaken mind. If the person needs to block the emotions in any specific situation (examination, an interview, scandal in family), then it is worth using the checked techniques. It can be phrases which in a special way weaken our mind. For example, ""This boat is empty" ", " "There is nothing that should be swept"". Or ""express meditation"" - immersion in aroma of a flower, spirits, aromatic oil. Presented how the aroma envelops you as if the strongest armor in the world? Forward!
4. Fixing on the stranger. Having focused on breath, the person ceases to concentrate on negative emotions. Examining the chief's earrings, the worker turns to the most part of its causticities a deaf ear. The method of visualization of the emotions is considered quite useful. For example, the anger can be presented streams of fire which passes through you, without scorching heart. It is possible to present itself in the serene summer lake into which the interlocutor throws stones. The quiet splash, circles disperse and again there comes the serene silence.
5. To deceive the vampire. If the person intentionally causes in you negative emotions (provokes a quarrel, presses on a sore point, humiliates people dear to you), then it is necessary to understand that he is ready ""to get warm at your fire"", to shout, release the negative emotions. It is necessary to ask itself a question: ""And why I feed the vampire with the blood? Why it is necessary to me"". And to begin to answer it it is lovely, polite and quiet. It is possible even to present how you feed ""vampire"" with pickles or eclairs. And he rolls eyes and cannot understand where habitual food.
6. To remember a paradox. We keep self-control while we control a situation. And we control a situation while we keep self-control. It is important to feel in this point of balance, and all who try to enrage us, softly, but it is polite to put into place.