When the relations only arise, the man appears at the girl as the understanding and loving person. Generally, without any shortcomings. But time goes, and already the guy has the habits which are not pleasant, and irritate. Why the man begins ""to enrage""? And how not to assume that the irritation became the gap reason?
When we fall in love, we do not notice the partner's shortcomings. Only admiration and the burning eyes. Over time this category of love fades, and we begin to look narrowly at the man. Also it turns out that not such he and ideal. Moreover also irritates! What should I do?
Why the guy irritates
Actually deeply it is not necessary to dig. Just men and women have the view of things, the habits. For example, the guy likes to play computer games, to lead more or less passive life. And the girl, on the contrary, wants to develop, travel, learn new. And the passivity of the partner irritates her. The second example: the man the inveterate fisherman and days off likes to carry out on the lake. The girl prefers to spend free time at home behind viewing the movie or reading the book. And habits of the guy irritate.
But actually...
Actually the irritation is just discrepancy of habits. But why at the beginning of the relations it is not noticed? Because at this moment in the head the ideal picture appears: ""my man loves me and will do things which to liking to me, and if not, then I will change him"". But, as practice shows, as a result similar thoughts are not implemented. From here irritation, misunderstanding and offenses.
How to struggle with irritation?
Small council - you should not struggle with irritation. It is necessary just to accept it. To accept the fact that the young man has the settled habits and it does not make sense to take offense at them. Just find time and quietly talk to it that disturbs you in the relations that disturbs in its habits. But you should not say what irritates, otherwise the partner can negatively be adjusted and answer with the phrases beginning with ""And you are...""
If to accept the man he will feel it what he is then more surely and will begin to open to the girl. And the constant irritation means unwillingness to accept the man because of what the relations are at the crisis end of the resources quicker.