Some couples which lived together not one year feel cooling in the relations. Begin to state claims, to reproach, scandals become norm of life behind which series the patience and mutual understanding of the people who are once loving each other is lost. In one of such days they arrive at an idea of a divorce. But as to avoid it and to correct everything.
1. Remember the happy moments of your life. Acquaintance, courtings, the first appointment, the first kiss, wedding, birth of children. Think of difficulties which you overcame together. Positive memoirs will give forces on the fight directed to preservation of family.
2. Keep calm. The arisen conflict will unsettle anyone. But it is important to remember that objectively it is possible to assess a situation only in case you are quiet and counterbalanced. Hysterics and words told during another dispute can complicate the relations even more.
3. Discuss a problem. Talk to the partner, discuss your marriage, try to understand what causes concern in each of you, find the reasons because of which you came to such final. At the same time it is necessary to speak in turn and not to interrupt each other. Even if you do not agree with the point of view of the opponent, wait when he finishes the thought. Tell about the feelings, let know what upsets you and for what reason, you do not keep everything in yourself – it will only aggravate the current situation.
4. Look for the decision in common. All efforts will be vain if only one of spouses tries to keep marriage, and the second does not wish to look for compromises and to improve the relations. Remember that both spouses so act together are responsible for defects, only so you will achieve desirable result.
5. Address the psychologist. If, despite all efforts, the conflict does not manage to be solved peacefully, try to ask for the professional help. The expert will be able objectively to look at your situation and to find a conflict source. Besides he will try to settle the arisen conflict, will make recommendations, following which, you will be able to avoid an inevitable divorce.
6. Have a rest from each other. If the way out did not manage to be found of current situation, you do not hurry to get divorced, it is possible to live just some time separately. Sometimes, thanks to this way, it is possible to understand how to keep marriage. Spouses, having remained alone, have an opportunity to look at a situation from outside and to find the new ways directed to resolution of conflict.