All know about need not to give in to emotions during the serious talk as they push us on adoption of illogical and irrational decisions. In many cultures it is considered that destiny of the man – to behave that this statement means explain to boys since the early childhood. As a result to adult age they come with excellent ability to be self-controlled. But the more promptly the world develops, the attention to mental development is given less therefore you should not be surprised to many people, not able to control the emotions. But also the adult can learn it, there would be desire and time.
How to learn to behave?
True professionals in the field of management of are Asians, to take at least alien Japanese from them busido. However, in case of the wrong approach to education, the full inability to express own emotions is formed, the person begins to be ashamed of them that leads to sad consequences both in respect of health, and in the field of interaction with the outside world. Unfortunately, such distortions are more often peculiar to the Europeans who grasped only outer side of training, did not manage to understand what means to behave and how to learn not to be nervous and not just to take an unperturbable form in the irritating circumstances. Therefore learning to control itself, it is necessary to seek not for suppression of emotions, and to ability to operate them – to show or push into the background, when necessary.
At first it is worth mentioning some receptions which will help with a difficult situation not to lose sobriety of thinking.
- Distract. We often bring ourselves to a boiling point, again and again scrolling the irritating phenomena in the head. Instead switch to other neutral event even if it is a view from the window. Quite good in the same time to think also of consequences of your flash whether it will lead to positive changes or will only aggravate a situation?
- Bite tongue. Contemplation of the drops of a rain which are rolling down a windowpane did not help? Try to distract yourself by means of pain – strongly clench and unclench fists, pinch yourself for a finger. Also the picked-up subject which you will begin to consider with concentration will help to switch attention.
- Consider. At emergence of irritation count up to 10, representing emergence of each figure on the screen and its disappearance.
- Breathe deeply. Make three deep breaths a nose, exhale through a mouth, trying to let out all air from lungs.
- Discipline. If you accustom yourself to an order in any area, then and it will be simpler to hold the person.
But, of course, any of these receptions is not capable to give the global answer to a question how to learn to behave and not to be nervous. And business all that for the valid peace of mind it is necessary to make much more efforts for self-education, to reconsider the system of values and to analyze the valid reasons for which you are infuriated by any given events. You remember, the speech an uncontrollable state, but not about natural reactions to external irritants.