The serious relations of loving couple come to a question of marriage sooner or later. Usually girls wait for this step from the man, wishing to hear a treasured question. But when there pass several years, and he is silent, it is necessary to think how to push the guy that he made the proposal.
Instruction
1. Do not demand that the man married you. Requests and threats will only push away him. It is necessary to work imperceptibly, only pushing him and generating thoughts of a marriage. Be tactful not to listen to all life "it you forced me".
2. Give it freedom. Sometimes men avoid marriage because that are afraid to be in the conclusion. If you control each its step, forbid to have a rest with friends, do not allow to play computer games or to watch football, it will have no desire to be with you. Nobody wants to place himself in a cage voluntarily.
3. Leave a talk about a wedding, a veil and limousines. Constantly hearing from you "I looked after a beautiful wedding dress" or "let's order cake in a candy store at the corner", he feels pressure. You as if made the decision for it and now just wait for formal confirmation.
4. Do not use methods like deliberate or fictional pregnancy. Not on all men this method works, and you can remain single mother. And if works, then you should live with a thought that he made the proposal only because of your deception.
5. Create a positive image of marriage. You watch soap operas and movies with happy family life. Meet familiar families where all are happy. You visit his parents if they have a good marriage.
6. Do not play a role, behave naturally. Some women in attempts to marry begin to pretend to be. With a great effort force themselves to prepare every day, undertake all housework, watch movies which are not pleasant, afraid to prove to be real with emotions and shortcomings. The man in this case can make the proposal, but not to you, and that woman whose role you played. And when you will begin to be yourself, the spouse can reconsider the views of many things. Sometimes it threatens with a divorce.
7. Enjoy the moment. You do not force an event, you love this person and want to be with it. Therefore care for it, you love and be at the best. If you are sincere in your relations, he will notice it and will make the proposal.
8. Make a pause in the relations that he felt lonely. It is not necessary to play a theatrical performance and to slam the door. Gather and live few weeks at mother or at the girlfriend. It is not obligatory to quarrel, think up a pretext – a disease, the help or just desire to stay together with the native person. In two weeks the man can reject thoughts of barchelor life when understands as far as you are necessary to him.
9. If nothing helps, and you cannot wait more, frankly talk. Sometimes the relations reach a deadlock when the age draws in, and he for years does not make offer. In this case suggest to discuss a situation. Learn his opinion on your future whether he sees you together, whether wants a wedding and family. If the man is not able distinctly to answer or will look for excuses, you should make the decision: or you define approximate date of a wedding, or leave.
10. Help the man to overcome fears and problems. After straight talk you will be able to learn the delay reasons. The guy can just be afraid of responsibility, then you need to instill in him confidence. To convince that you will be near and will help to overcome all difficulties. If a problem in finance, tell that agree to a modest wedding. It is possible to organize a banquet and for anniversary when there is money. Show it that you are ready to overcome through joint efforts all barriers.