The reasons for which the women who lost the spouse seek to marry repeatedly have various character. Some of them coped with loss and found forces to continue life further. Other widows understand that children need the father, and the woman – men's support.
Composure as beginning of new happy life of the woman
In order that to the woman who buried the husband to marry again, it is necessary to find composure. Loss of the loved one is a huge tragedy which deprives of vital forces, pulls down the purposes and plans, beats the most weak spots of the woman. To the woman, seen the death of the loved one, the loneliness becomes intolerable, at most of them the meaning of life without beloved spouse is for a while erased.
For this reason it is necessary to build the new relations only after when the woman psychologically overcomes such situation. Otherwise it is waited by obviously unfortunate outcome: continuous memories of the died spouse, comparisons, a remorse, various alarms will not allow to build up the new full-fledged relationship.
It is known that time is capable to treat including the worst experiences. In this situation perfectly the faith in God and religion helps. It is considered that death is a release of soul of the person from a physical body for her further eternal life in the Kingdom of Heaven. According to this logic, smother relatives and darlings will surely meet. Therefore, having accepted a situation, the woman should understand that each person on the earth has the vital interval, the tasks and the destiny. Therefore it is necessary to find forces to hold the died spouse light in remembrance, to pray for him, to believe that plans of God are always kinder and cleaner than our terrestrial plans. Thus, the woman who made the decision to marry again needs to get rid of a position of the victim, to overcome fears, to learn to look at life in a new way, to trust God, to love life. The basis of the harmonious relations of the man and woman is a mutual love and trust.
For finding of new love it is necessary to open the heart for it towards
The woman needs to forgive herself because most of widows blame themselves for the death of the spouse for various reasons. Some consider that they protected the husband insufficiently and loved him, others long time underestimated his care and made a claim, the third – squabbled with it on the eve of death, without having managed to apologize. The woman needs "to collect" anew the inner world and to fall in love with itself. It is necessary to learn to look at himself in a new way, to find a hobby, hobbies, to realize itself in the spiritual sphere. It is necessary to find a set of the reasons and to thank itself and God for them: for the fact that she found forces to go further; for the fact that she gives love to children and brings up them and others. It is important to realize that all events and meetings occurs at the right time, are given to the person when he is ready to them. Some thoughts are not enough, the state and attitude of the woman is necessary. Only having done work on finding of composure, the woman will be able to be ready to a new meeting, new love. To love the person – it is disinterested to give him the positive energy, to share the sincere forces. But until the woman is not filled with such energy, it is difficult to it to be together with other man, and to the man near it will be not rather comfortable. Thus, when the woman will begin to radiate energy of love and a pacification, she will meet the partner.