When in the house just about there has to be a kid, it is worth thinking of how to prepare the senior children for this event. The child can have the severe stress if you do not make it in advance.
Initially the child should be told how his life when the baby appears can change. Answer all questions interesting him and try to explain the most important that your love for it cannot become less in any way. It is especially difficult for children to believe in it as they perceive love as something final. In their understanding the love is a big and tasty pie, and with the birth of the baby, the piece of this pie belonging to it will pass to the baby. Explain to him that the love will be enough for all, and it cannot take suddenly and will come to an end.
Do not add fuel to the fire and do not abuse the child for his negative reaction. It needs to give time to get used. You praise it for good behavior more often and in any ways show how you strongly love it in spite of the fact that in the house one more kid appeared.
When on the occasion of the birth of the baby, to you all relatives on a visit come, ask to show at first attention to the senior, and later, to go in the newborn. The same situation is also with gifts. Many forget to bring a gift to the senior child, so all thoughts will be occupied only by the baby. Try not to change especially the habits because the senior child can think that you move away from him.
Remember the truth that it is impossible to be afraid of what you laugh at. Therefore as often as possible you joke with the senior child about the baby. Do not forget about time which you spent together with the child. Let him feel that for you it is still special. Try to acquaint the child with obligations for care for the kid. Let in the beginning the help will be small, it not the most important. The main thing the fact that the child will be as before together with mother and also will feel necessary.
At first, after the birth of the baby, try not to press on the child, at each opportunity emphasizing its communication with the baby. Exclude phrases from the lexicon: big sister or big brother. Your senior child did not get used to the idea that the baby is now a part of your big family too yet, and moreover it will be just unpleasant to him.