In any relations there comes sooner or later crisis which is similar to an apocalypse. It would seem – quite recently everything was good how reproaches and claims from scratch suddenly begin. The world which you carefully created falls on small pieces and understanding comes that you always were one, and darling remained beyond the created Universe. What to do if quarrels and reproaches every day gain steam, and moral pressure becomes more rigid?
Introspection
First of all it is necessary to hide all emotions and to calm down. Female nature very flexible and vulnerable therefore it is twice difficult to be gathered determination to fight back or insist on the. Yes, it is sometimes simpler to keep silent in response to an offensive statement or a reproach, but what to do if the man gets used to your fast otkhodchivost and uses it in the pleasure nearly every day?
At the man, as well as at the woman – the truth. And it is necessary to reckon with this truth. The main rule of happy couple – respect and mutual understanding.
If you feel small, speak about it, ask "to think", "to try to start with a clean slate", and in reply hear sarcastic snickers – it is worth thinking: whether love you in general?
Take the sheet of paper and write everything about what you worry and that you consider important. Whether on the business everything is as bad as it seems? If yes, that decide on a problem.
Remember: you nothing have to nobody. Do not turn the life into penal servitude. Cooking, cleaning, washing, intimate life, everything has to bring pleasure, but not torture. If darling considers that you do nothing, it is not necessary to justify itself! In the first months of joint life you did the same, as years later, and everything suited him. It is worse if you begin to try to please, but nothing changes, and your attempts are not noticed or perceived as due.
Do not go too far – in everything there has to be a measure
Do not allow the man to be passed on the appearance, do not trample down a self-assessment. Care for yourself, do not forget about cosmetics, you love yourself, despite everything. The man as a dog, skin feels the self-assured woman and loses a fuse.
Do not give in to skillful provocation, do not paint in paints each lived day. Whether it be the husband or the guy – it has no right to arrange cross-questionings or to blackmail with the care in an insubordination case.
Between fight and the serious conflict up to a divorce a thin side: it is necessary to know accurately who is right and who is guilty. If you know that you do not deserve the indulgent relation to yourself, assert the rights, prove that you the personality.
For a start it is necessary to talk, find out quietly why there is an irritation or aggression. If the man does not hear you, try to write the detailed letter. In it there is nothing ridiculous: words on paper easier are perceived as do not express emotions.
If darling did not apprehend seriously your thoughts, be discharged. Do not open wide open, show that you will perfectly do without him. Indifference frightens and causes feeling of instability. Perhaps, he works this tactics on you to subordinate. Try to change over imperceptibly.
What cannot be done
To punish lack of sex - in advance losing option. In case of a sexual strike you will get in a trap and will be afraid of treason. To put into place – does not mean to throw everything, and to sit, a slozha of the handle and to say that you are obliged nothing to nobody. You have to work, clean up and prepare as usual. At least because it is necessary for you.
If a talk and endurance do not help, ask yourself a question: and whether it is worth breaking itself for the sake of such man?