The family relations are a laborious complex work which demands the correct approach. Unfortunately, cloudless family life does not happen. The conflicts, serious and not really, take place in many couples. Stability and fortress of family bonds will depend on right permission of quarrels and quarrels.
Instruction
1. It is important to define the cause of your conflicts. When you argue, the situation is escalated, you should take mentally a step back and to try to understand why it happened so, but not differently. Perhaps, the bad mood, a depression, usual fatigue which makes the person depressed, nervous and intense became the reason of contention. If you defined that the oversight of your second half is the cause of conflict, it is not necessary to raise at once the voice and to accuse of everything only it, the relations are built by two persons, and the fault partly lies also with you.
2. The reason is found. Now it is important to work a problem and to come to the joint decision. For this purpose you need some time. It is impossible to avoid a problem and to pretend that nothing occurs. If one of spouses has claims to another, then it is worth discussing them.
3. Discussing a problem, you have to express the opinion on the conflict and listen to arguments of the partner, without interrupting and without passing to raised tone. You speak honestly and frankly that your second half understood an essence of your discontent and further to avoid similar negative situations.
4. The most difficult is to come to consensus. Living in marriage, it is necessary to develop for itself a peculiar system of checks and balances. Simply speaking, sometimes it is necessary to meet halfway each other and to concede. So, for example, if your spouse does nothing on the house, then you should make the list of things which he will do, and the list of affairs in which you will be engaged together. Both persons have to follow the made decision and not to go beyond the put framework, otherwise the long way will be passed in vain. Continue to work on joint problems.
5. Quiet resolution of conflicts is a healthy way of elimination of all family problems. However sometimes it happens so that spouses cannot resolve the developed conflict situation therefore it will be more expedient to address the qualified specialist - the psychologist. Having special skills, it is simpler to psychologist to find a way out of the conflict. You address absolutely independent person who is impartial in the judgments and conclusions.