It is good when the harmony reigns in the relations of lovers, mutual understanding – as was told earlier, "calm and a smooth surface and God's grace". Alas, so happens not always. There can be both misunderstanding, and quarrels, offenses. Or it is worse than that – when the former feeling weakens and even disappears at all. For example, the girl suddenly says to the guy: "Sorry, but I do not love you any more. Our relations cannot proceed". Also leaves. How to be to the guy in such situation?
Instruction
1. It is possible to understand confusion, offense, indignation of the young man aroused by the hurt pride. But better banish these emotions. Tranquility, judiciousness, common sense, - here on what it is necessary to lean if you resolved to return darling.
2. Do not make rough rows with reproaches, especially with threats at all. And, of course, do not even think of returning darling by force. First, not for nothing the popular wisdom says: "Love cannot be ordered". Secondly, the speech after all goes about the civilized person, but not about the savage.
3. It is not necessary also "to starve out", telling the girl as you suffer without her as to you it is bad. The result, most likely, will turn out opposite to on what you count. The girl can feel to you pity, but not love.
4. Wait some time, it is necessary in order that strong emotions settled. And then try as it is possible to remember and analyze more carefully: what led to such outcome? Not just like that, not on the flat place your girl suddenly stopped loving you. There had to be a reason, and serious. It is difficult as men and women have absolutely different psychology, views of the same. If you are at a loss – ask council your girlfriend, the relative.
5. If you understand the reason of parting and will draw all necessary conclusions – your task is already half solved.
6. In advance be adjusted on the fact that you should show both patience, and a step. Let know to the girl: despite your parting, you treat her still kindly (the word "love" should not be pronounced so far), are ready to be her friend, to help council and business if necessary.
7. Unostentatiously, tactfully you start with it a conversation, be interested in its affairs, progress, offer the feasible help. Your task is to achieve that the girl herself got over: let there are no former relations, but I to it am still not indifferent, it is possible to rely on it.
8. As soon as you feel that it "thawed", having ceased to feel on you offense, try to speak frankly. Assure that thought of the incident much and are ready to behave in a different way. Ask her to explain: what in you it was not pleasant to it in what you did wrong? And further already everything depends on you.