Friendship with the bad company can turn back big troubles both for the child, and for his parents. Quite often, having appeared under the influence of the similar companies, teenagers quarrel with parents, give up study, begin to smoke, drink and even to use drugs. Certainly, it is simpler to prevent such situation, than to correct its consequences, but an exit is even in case the child already contacted improper people.
Instruction
1. Be a friend of both the child, and his good friends. Build trusting relationship, allow the son to invite the friends home, to communicate with them, to go together to the cinema, on concerts and so forth. You can ask good friends whom your son loves and appreciates for the help. Often young people and especially teenagers share the problems with peers, than with parents much more willingly therefore try to influence the son through others.
2. Find business which really is pleasant to it for the child. Try to load it so that time for nonsenses it did not have. For example, if your son since the childhood dreamed to practice boxing, arrange it in sports section. If he likes to collect something – help to create a magnificent collection. He wants to learn to ride a board? Buy everything that for this purpose is necessary. Create suitable conditions for hobby occupation, and the child will not have neither time, nor desire to contact the bad company.
3. You do not shout, do not make scandals and the more so do not raise a hand against the son. His new friends for certain already began to incite him against you, and similar acts you only strengthen their authority. Moreover, the son can even escape from the house, and then it will be too difficult to restore trusting relationship with it. On the contrary, talk quietly and do not reprimand. You have to convince the child that you understand him and want to help, but do not force to do something by force. Also you remember: any threats and ultimatums, only a quiet, sincere conversation!
4. Tell the son about the experiences, without reproaching him at all at the same time. You say how the created situation as it is painful to you is unpleasant to you know that such clever person went astray. At the same time it is very important not to speak your son, bad about new friends, and the more so not to offend and to humiliate them, otherwise you will only incite the child against yourself. You ask to understand you and to listen to your words, but do not order.