Divorce - painful process for all family members. Adults endure the hard period which is followed by a showdown, division of property, nervous breakdowns. Children turn into involuntary slaves to such actions and remain in private with the internal alarms.
Relationship between each of parents and the child is the base for minimization of risk of development of psychological problems. The age plays a key role in reaction to circumstances of a divorce.
Children are more senior than fourteen years, as well as all others, have a stress and endure everything in the developed situation painfully. Parents believe differently, including them rather adult, and do not pay them due attention. At this age there is a formation of the relation of teenagers to an opposite sex, the model of further behavior in family life is formed. You should not push away children, to splash out on them a negative and to leave them alone. Both parents need to talk to children, to listen to their thoughts and opinions and by all means to let know that mother and the father still equally will remain in his life.
It is the most difficult to improve the relations with children aged from six up to fourteen years. The child who got used to live in full family undergoes the strongest experiences and accurately feels guilty of parents. It is transformed to the lever of manipulations because the child loses feeling of love and wants to return back everything. More dangerous is a situation when children begin to blame themselves, they can do in such state to themselves huge harm, both physical, and psychological. The parents living separately have to bring closer as much as possible pastime with children by then when they were in marriage. So the child realizes that the love of parents does not depend on external factors.
Children up to six years sharply do not react to a divorce as are not capable to estimate the events fully. Kids will feel feeling of concern and small discomfort, but at the correct relation of parents it can be excluded completely.
However many was to the child of years, it is required to refrain from imposing of negative opinion on the former partner categorically. It is necessary to show tolerance and mutual respect, for education of the harmonious personality with the correct moral values.