The sexual relations – the phenomenon many-sided, and people can reach pleasure in them differently. Some are helped with it by sado-masochism which is studied in psychology and in some cases is regarded as an aberration, but sometimes its manifestations benign can be considered as one of ways of stimulation of partners.
What is sado-masochism?
Understand a sexual deviation which consists in receiving satisfaction from the relations with the help of the suffering inflicted on the partner or themselves as it. That the sado-masochism means, the psychology says, and, according to science, this phenomenon unites tendency to sadism (bringing of sufferings) and masochism (receiving pleasure from sufferings). Two of these tendencies can be combined in one person who acts serially as a source and object of such experiences.
The sadism and masochism can be combined also in the relations of partners in which one of them always serves as the sadist, and the second – a role of the masochist. In psychology the deviation is considered frustration if in sexual games it has the leading role, and without it it is not possible to reach pleasure. It can be shown also in easy forms, being present at the normal sexual relations in the form of pats, pokusyvaniye as way of additional impact on erogenous zones.
Signs of sado-masochism
The people having tendency to a parafiliya can be distinguished on their personal characteristics. Both as the sadist, and as the masochist can act both the man, and the woman. For example, if couple practices sado-masochism, the lady can dominate, as well as the man. Characteristic features of the personality having such deviations are:
- Patient relation to sufferings. Silent transferring of pain – both moral, and physical is inherent in masochists. It is possible to distinguish them and on complaisance in relation to people around at which they do not demand the similar attitude towards themselves, lack of own opinion, resignation.
- Existence of tendency to aggression.
- Search of the sadist. Having similar tendencies, the person looks for the imperious, rude personality who will inflict on him suffering in partners.
- Such bents can be shown also in the family relations where one of spouses, being afraid to lose the second, suffers tyranny – a beating, humiliations.
Sado-masochism reasons
In many cases such preferences in the relations are formed since the childhood. More often the tendency to sado-masochism develops if the child grew in aggression which was shown both in relation to it, and in the relations of other family members among themselves. There can be at this phenomenon also other reasons:
- Features of sexual temperament – bright, expressed. In such cases the person has a tendency to domination, but more often it is shown within norm.
- The aspiration to submit. It can be created at the people having the high social status, a position. As the sexual partner they wish to see a dominant to which power they want to be sent. The rigid sado-masochism can practice in such cases.
- Existence of psychological problems. They can be both at the sadist, and at the masochist, and the purpose both is derivation from moral sufferings on physical.
What does masochism differ from sado-masochism in?
These concepts are interconnected. Masochism and sado-masochism – a sheaf in which the first acts as a part of the second. In the first case of people derives pleasure, only if inflict on it suffering. In the second – it is pleasant both to bring it pain and to get it. In both cases of people looks for the partner for the sexual relations in which everyone will carry out the role for bringing each other of pleasure.
Types of sado-masochism
Perversion is classified depending on rigidity level in domination. Both male, and female masochism happens such:
- Tanatofiliya. It is the most rigid type of sado-masochism because in its framework painful pains, tortures can be brought to the person, up to finishing the partner by them to terminal state that gives it the chance to feel excitement.
- Algoglaliya. The sado-masochism of this version means application of corporal punishments which will not bring mutilations, death. For them whips, birches, lashes, clips, hot wax, needles are used. At implementation of sexual intercourse, different objects can be applied.
- Bandage (binding). Understand partial or full deprivation of the person of mobility as it. Ropes, chains, handcuffs, polyethylene, latex, rubber tapes are for this purpose used. The sado-masochism in the relations can practice in this look also at usual couples.
- The will of the masochist completely submits to will of the sadist, and on both sides it occurs consciously.
Sado-masochism consequences
Deviation is considered as an aberration. On its basis the mutual relations, for example, in the BDSM format in which sado-masochism is an integral part can be formed. Such bents can provoke antisocial behavior at people – emergence of addiction to drugs, alcohol, tendency to violence, child abuse, animals. Progressing, such psychological features can be transformed to a tanatofiliya when the person feels sexual excitement, representing own death.
Treatment of sado-masochism
This problem has a psychological basis therefore and it is necessary to fight against it by means of the expert. The sado-masochism – a perversion which is shown brightly and involves cruelty, and treat him by means of psychoanalysis. Experts (sexologists, psychiatrists) help the person to learn to show in a different way the emotions, previously having found the reasons of such bents at the patient. One is in certain cases appointed or a complex of the medicines promoting suppression of potency and a libido, but only the doctor taking into account a clinical picture has to do it:
- Edarbi-Klo;
- "Propranolol";
- Hlofadon;
- Androkur;
- Versed;
- Ativan.
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