People in love conclude the alliances, swear each other love and fidelity, and pass through some time of feeling and they face harsh reality. Household problems can spoil everything, but each couple has an opportunity to find love, but such deep feeling without respect is impossible.
The ability to hear the partner, to consider his interests, to listen to councils and not to push away at the difficult moments is a respect. In any relations these qualities allow to reach compromise, to solve any conflicts. If all this is absent, then the probability of difficulties and partings is high.
What is love?
Different people ask a question of love. It is studied by psychologists, philosophers, ordinary people. And only couples which lived together more than 30 years can describe that it. This feeling of deep attachment when the loved one becomes native. And butterflies in a stomach as at love, are already absent, but there is something bigger, understanding that life without another does not make sense.
But the love arises not at once, it at first very bright, very attracting, but is only the first stage. Inspired with feeling, people cannot be realistic about each other yet. Pleasure presence of darling grants magic feelings which inspire. Then delusion disappears, and before eyes there is a real person with the habits. And here it is important not to refuse, not to throw it, and to begin to look for something the general. It as new acquaintance which is not always pleasant, but is inevitable. And there has to be a respect, it allows people to endure the difficult period, to see only good and not to concentrate on a negative. If crisis is lived, then the relations reach the new level when the true love when people begin to seek to be a whole arises.
Life without respect
It is necessary to choose between love and respect sometimes if the loved one is not considered with opinion, does not listen and gives nothing for the family benefit, it is worth thinking and whether it is necessary? Of course, feelings give strength to suffer and believe that all to change, but only so happens not often. If the person is not able to respect others if he is selfish and inattentive, it is possible to wait from him for transformations very long, but there are no guarantees of their emergence. The true love is impossible without reciprocal concessions, without understanding and adaptation. If there is no respect, then and love, deep and light, will never be born. Only love with its "pink glasses" allows to close eyes to roughness, cruelty and mistrust. Then all this all the same will begin to disturb very much the relations, so the family will be doomed to destruction. It is not necessary to break off the union at once if you did not find signs of respect, try to explain to the partner that you from it wait what you think of and what behavior would suit you. Sometimes the person just does not understand expectations of another, does not know how it is necessary to behave. Set an example, inform in dialogue or focus attention on good options of behavior of acquaintances, perhaps the example will inspire the person on transformation.