Inconstancy of partners becomes the main reason for gaps. Instead of the happy relations the broken couple has the bitter deposit and happy memoirs which are thoroughly strewn lightly with hurt feelings, deception, offenses. Only some manage to make of the similar tragedy the comedy, let and not the best. Perhaps, there are ways to forgive and forget mistakes.
Often treason of the husband is justified with male polygamy, managing at the same time to forget about elementary moral values: trust, responsibility, honor. But whether really similar deception is based on the crushed respect or is a momentary rush from the "flesh is weak" series? Perhaps, there are exceptions when treason is not more terrible than party in tennis with the casual passer?
First of all his dissatisfaction with life with the darling is the reason of treason of the husband. The boredom, the ordinary, obtusion of feelings can lead to search something new. And, if not to palter, also the woman can be guilty of it. If to reject all emotions and to understand a situation soberly on whom a delighted look any person, whether it be the man or the woman will detain: on the well-groomed beauty with the flying gait from a hip or on "pug" in the stretched undershirt with the list of purchases in a hand? The choice is obvious. The unattractiveness of the wife (in the sexual, esthetic, intellectual plan) becomes the main reason for treason. In this case you should not be whipping the cat and to blame all and all. In this case it is necessary to become better and to prove that, apparently, the book read by the husband stores in itself a great number of the most interesting, but the pages which are missed by him.
Everything is right. Treason of the husband needs to be understood for a start. To estimate its act not as the man's act, and as an act of the person, kind of it paradoxically did not sound. If for physical treason there were reasons to which partly fault something to change discrepancy of the wife and partly her unwillingness, then, perhaps, rightly. The sitting duck nobody wants. Nobody wants to iron the cellulitis hidden under a terry sheet. Sharply and. But such position is an only way not to spread in pity to itself, and to analyze the event and to draw the correct conclusions, that is to forgive. It is important to convince further himself that it is possible to trust this man again that the wife is able to change everything and not to bring a situation to repetition of a mistake.
It is much worse if treason is not single if it develops into strong communication and goes beyond physical deception, approaching treason spiritual. Alas, in such situation of people it is lost. It is unlikely it will turn out to find the right reason among blocking up of questions, that is, to understand. And, if the person is misunderstood, so becomes also the stranger. Why then to forgive the stranger and to absolve him sins? Not in it specialty of the wife. Treason of the husband at a difficult moment is unacceptable. It is impossible to call it a whim, it is impossible to justify with weakness. Inability a support at the difficult moment to be much more terrible in the man, than his thirst for new feelings with other women. Therefore also forgiveness here out of place. If the person brought, so can repeat. Important in this situation to keep self-respect, not to undertake all fault, to keep to itself respect and confidence in the appeal. And always to remember that life goes on.