Friendship, especially strong, checked by time and tests, is a precious gift which needs to be valued. Alas, sometimes happens that when the person falls in love or marries, the partner begins to be jealous him of friends.
Let's say it is not pleasant to the wife that the husband often meets friends, continually invites them on a visit, goes with them on fishing. She shows discontent, reproaches the husband that that does not appreciate its society, and sometimes even puts the ultimatum: decide that it is more important for you, love or friendship! How to arrive to the husband in such difficult situation?
How to choose between darling and friends
Choosing between the friend and darling, it is necessary to try that neither the love, nor friendship suffered. It is possible to understand discontent and jealousy of the wife. The woman in love wants that all attention of darling belonged only to her. Nevertheless, to the husband it is necessary delicately, politely to convince the half that such behavior not only is unreasonable, but also it is simply selfish.
For example, the husband can refer to the fact that he quietly takes out a long talk of the wife by phone with girlfriends or their sit-round gathering in cafe, without demanding that the spouse stopped communication with them.
It will be useful to make in something concessions to the wife, for example, having promised that meetings with friends will become more rare, and their visits to them home will be coordinated previously with her. That the wife treated visits of friends of the husband more quietly, it is necessary to minimize also at her presence a talk on such especially men's subjects as sport, fishing, policy, technical characteristics of cars, their repair, etc. And, certainly, alcohol intake at meetings with friends has to be moderate! Otherwise, few what wife will agree that the husband communicated with such people, getting used to this addiction. As a result, in family there will be quarrels, scandals on this subject.
Why it is not necessary to make the choice between love and friendship
Both the love, and friendship is fine, improving feelings. They do the person better, kinder, poryadochny, inspire him on good acts. And from true friendship, and gets a lot of positive emotions from sincere love of people. Therefore statement of question – what is more important, love or friendship, very strange.
If there was such question, most likely, something not in an order either with love, or with friendship. Means, one of these feelings insincere, affected.
It is necessary to remember firmly: true friends and girlfriends will not prevent love. They will not apply for personal space, will always understand, will agree with the choice and will even support. If the friend as if the whimsical child demands time, so he cannot be considered as the loved one at all.