To live long time together – a dream of loving couples. Young people want to go on life hand in hand. However long marriages have both positive, and the negative sides.
Loss of novelty
Only having begun to meet, the young man and the girl are interesting each other. They seek to get acquainted closer, trying to learn more about the elect. As a result, they literally live with each other.
Having lived long time together, the man and the woman understand that they learned about the partner practically everything. As persons they seldom get something new and interesting. The aspiration to recognize each other closer vanishes.
One their important points in long marriage – maintaining sexual appeal of the husband and wife for each other. Loss of this interest – one of the reasons of partings at mature age.
Long marriage is fraught with loss of novelty of the relations. Life assumes the same actions, situations, problems. The daily predictability leads to boredom which gradually develops into irritability.
Intolerance to shortcomings
If at the beginning of the joint way the husband and the wife try not to notice each other shortcomings, then with age it becomes more difficult to be made. The irritation from addictions increases a snowball, and it is harder and harder to constrain the rushes.
If spouses are not able to treat with former understanding to each other, then such situation can lead to a divorce.
Long joint life leads to the fact that spouses pay attention to each other minuses more and more. Expressing the discontent, they force the partner to get rid of addictions. However at mature age it is very difficult to change the personality.
Dissociation of interests
At the very beginning of creation of family the husband and the wife have many common interests. They equip the house, raise children, are engaged in their education. Partners more realize themselves as parents. Having grown up the children, having released them from a native home, spouses remain alone. Common goals and aspirations vanish – the house is equipped, children grew up. In their family life there is a disadaptation.
If in youth the spouses have general hobbies, then they have a chance with age not to lose each other.
If the husband and the wife do not find an interaction point, then they will begin to move away from each other. Everyone will begin to go about the own business, giving to attention to affairs of the spouse less. With age at both partners problems with health begin. It leaves a negative mark on the relations. The inability to express care about each other is aggravated with indifference. Such relations are fraught with final parting.