Over time in the family relations there can come crisis. In such cases the campaign of the husband and wife to the psychologist can become binding thread which will not allow these two to scatter in different directions. But even to the qualified professional often happens very difficult to understand the family relations. And having only understood the true reason because of which the married couple had disagreements and misunderstanding, it is possible to try to solve these problems.
So why the family relations collapse?
The reasons for break in relations can be much, here some of them:
The love passed, the relations reached a deadlock. The husband and the wife treat to each other very coldly. They rejoice more when there is no spouse or the spouses nearby, and are very strongly irritated at each other, being together.
There are no common desires. Each of spouses leads the separate life, the hobbies and interests, the partner is not interested in thoughts, dreams and life in general. They have no common desires, the purposes and the ideas. Spouses live not as a single whole in merge, and it is rather as though they to it are forced. Or just on a habit.
Spouses absolutely each other do not understand. Various people can take an independent stand. But, as they say, "it is necessary to resemble so to understand each other, and at the same time to differ in something to love each other". But not to understand opinion of the spouse and not to respect him is two different things. Mistrust to the spouse. The jealousy is not always mistrust to the partner, it can be simple unwillingness to lose it. But the excessive jealousy can turn into obsession therefore she is capable to turn life of both spouses into hell. Incompatibility in a bed. It is one of the most frequent problems on which married couples break up. The sexual incompatibility often causes in partners the offense developing into rage that very strongly breaks mutual understanding between spouses. Also because of sexual incompatibility one of partners goes on the party that the second will hardly be able to forgive. Often the married couples which faced intimate problems do not know how to behave in this situation as to talk about it. And quite often in such cases the partners become reserved. Women perceive such problems more deeply. Having felt coldness from the husband, as a rule, they become very nervous and irritable. As a result of a problem in the relations are only aggravated.
So it is possible to make if the husband does not want the wife any more?
For a start it is necessary to calm down quietly to try to define a problem root. It is worth trying to become quieter, to talk to the husband soft tone, not to needle and not to break on shout. Listen to the beloved, try to understand him.
Try to listen and understand even the trifles - for example that today the vehicle was serviced bad gasoline and it twitched all road, etc.
You should not tighten with a solution, the longer such situation lasts, the it will be more difficult to leave it. The longer you will become reserved, the it will be more difficult to meet halfway then each other. Be not afraid to talk to the husband, men, as a rule, it is even stronger to be afraid to begin a delicate conversation, though very much try to hide it. You study not only listen, but also to hear. Try to remove the internal barrier and do not perceive each word of the husband in bayonets. Try to put yourself on its place, to see on a situation it with eyes. So you will be able to be objective and balanced. Do not hesitate to talk directly and frankly to the husband, to tell him about the thoughts and desires. For fatigue and eternal employment he can be tired and forget simply that you need its attention. And it does not mean at all that you are not loved any more. It means that the person just wallowed in work and he was very tired. Try to relax the spouse. It is possible to make a dinner and to sit alone, to talk quietly. And before going to bed useful will be to make to the darling the weakening massage.
Remember how you were happy together, and be not afraid, you people not foreign each other.
The simple relations do not happen, always in something there are difficulties. But present what chance that from millions of people on the earth you met each other by chance exists and wanted to be together? Accidents do not happen, and it means that you have to be together and it is worth fighting for it! Try to treat more tolerantly the husband, listen to him and pay him attention. You treat it with tenderness and understanding. Also believe, it will be as an echo to which your husband will surely respond. Let it will be not at once, suffer, all the best comes to the one who is able to wait!