Many idealists, having hardly blazed to some person with strong feelings and having found reciprocity of a subject of the love, are convinced: similar will proceed at least to death someone from their couple. However sometimes the reality appears in relation to the people having similar views, very cruel. Their feelings for some reason fade, without passing the first serious test.
Love: dreams against reality
Often people in love make the same mistake which finally is fatal for their relations. They assume as if love - the certain reality coming and leaving on own arbitrariness or at will of Providence. They think as if in this case everything depends exclusively at most feelings and on whether any given person is "soulmate".
Thinking in this way, it is possible to bring closer a love funeral only. The reality is much more prosy, than such naive romantics think. Believing as if feelings are continuous holidays, they steadily are mistaken. Actually "survivability" of any given love relations depends on "working ability" of both partners in this aspect.
In other words, the novel will proceed exactly so much how many both parties in it will be ready to invest in construction of the strong base of the union, to strengthen and have feelings of each other, "sating" them with admiration with each other, readiness to go sometimes on compromises, and even to make certain victims for the sake of another. If similar does not occur, feelings are lost sooner or later.
What is capable to kill feelings
When partners approach love consumer, ready not to give but only to receive certain "dividends" of positive emotions from the relations, they have to be ready to the fast end of the novel. If they do not wish a similar fate, both of them should try to trace the moments able to cause disagreements and to strike a blow to their love. So, problems often arise in those couples where lovers belong to various racial, ethnic, social, religious groups or, for example, are carriers markedly of the mentality differing from each other. Here enemies of their relations - especially in the first difficult years of their coexistence - will be literally all and almost each vital circumstance. If they float at will of waves, but will not try to combine efforts to get out of a whirlpool of the arising contradictions, their love - even very strong initially - will hardly be viable. That it did not leave, a lot of efforts on prevention of that someone or something rose between lovers will be required. Often the relations become obsolete if they are "jammed" by life. It is not a hackneyed phrase, but the relevant truth. Daily cares really will be "murderers" of love if both partners do not watch themselves, making efforts to remain for each other the most desired, and to find what unites them - overall objectives, occupations, ways of carrying out leisure, etc.
When leaving of love - only illusion
Often only it seems to people that their relations sputtered out and there are no feelings between them long ago. Actually true love, in particular if both partners constantly work on its strengthening, just is not capable to be dissolved and leave in anywhere. Only the fact that took for it "dies" usually. It is a lot of inhabitants of the planet who are brought up on the Hollywood melodramas and love affairs, acquire incorrect understanding of love from there. Having seen enough of experiences of screen and book characters, they quite often begin to think as if the love is a whirlwind of emotions and burning passion. In reality above-mentioned characterizes only one of the parties of full-fledged feelings - sensual and sexual (and everything that is anyway connected with it). In the same couple the term of life of ardent love and sharpness of manifestation of passion is approximately from six months to three years a maximum. Further the relations either become obsolete, or regenerate in something new, more stable. Many, having noticed loss of former sharpness of feelings (sign in notorious "candy buketny" the period), with grief think as if the love died. Actually, if it remained, then passed into quieter stage when habits and features of character of the partner are already more or less studied, and at the same time people begin "to grow" kind of each other. Here just the most real mature - and the finest - feelings also originate. Once you only stop the novel at this stage, having given in to desire to feel "nerve" of emotions already with other partner, it is possible to lose something really very valuable, and through two-three of years (if the new relations sustain so much) all the same to come to a similar result. So you should not chase illusions of "new" happiness. Certainly, it is quite possible to meet it, but naive will believe as if the intensity of emotions will be hardy for many years. It is important to understand and take for granted metamorphoses of true love.