For some divorces – it is crash of an important part of their life, for others ─ began it. But also those, and others in the majority consider that both spouses are divorced guilty.
Why both are guilty
Something serves as a push, the trigger in order that in a bowl of family there was at first small, but then more and more deep crack. Even if this crack – result of behavior of one of spouses, another is guilty of that, encouraged something, or neglected a situation. Not always to be guilty, it is necessary to do something, sometimes it is enough not to do. Especially, if you know what will be then.
However, the divorced couples, as a rule, comprehend degree of own fault already years later. It gives invaluable experience therefore repeated marriages generally break up less often or do not break up in general.
When one is guilty
Cases when it is possible to say objectively that one person is guilty, have to be very indicative. For example, treason or beating. However, the first option not especially successful, the partner on the fact of treason pushes an acute shortage of attention, caress, heat or understanding. And matter in physical contact is not obligatory, sometimes it becomes just banal and even accidental result of search of warmth on the party. The person, without receiving something in family, it is doomed to fill emptiness and therefore will look for it out of family. And misunderstanding becomes result of such chronic shortage. One of spouses can quite understand what is not enough for another, but just not to wish to listen to it or it to realize. Happens and so that significance is not attached to it. Understanding of what occurred is frequent comes when already late. Sometimes on treason pushes immaturity of the person as persons. The family is other stage of the relations and that fact that it demands more efforts and, perhaps, it seems to less romantic, it is necessary to perceive quietly, but not to start seeking it elsewhere. Physical impact is, perhaps, the only thing what one person is guilty always of, the one who so proves. Manhandling is an anomaly therefore if the wife leaves the husband beating her, she is right. How the woman behaved, it is not an occasion to beat her and to shift to her fault. It is the only cause of a divorce of which only one of partners is guilty.