Each of us sees in the parents and pluses and minuses. It can be offenses since the childhood, disappointment from what was received less from them that was for you very important. Now we learn whether there is a way to solve this problem. That is whether it is possible to get rid of disagreements with close people.
There is a set of different problems which adult children face. These problems are considered by family and age psychology. Parents most often need to understand and accept that their children grew up, and time to leave the ""native"" house came. But often there are problems and at the grown-up children, and psychologists offer some ways of the solution of these problems.
When we want to change something in the parents, it results often in the return result. And if we begin to work on the attitude towards parents, then it gives positive effect.
First of all it is necessary to try to find the reasons in itself. To see and recognize the mistakes. To take responsibility for communication with them. To think over what can be changed that communication became better. How not to kindle the conflict, and on the contrary, ""to kill"" it right at the beginning. And suddenly ourselves are guilty that we touch the father and mother with the abrupt replies and unwillingness to be closer?
If it seems that parents afford more, than it is necessary, in other words, overstep the limits or break personal space, for example, call several times a day or ""please"" you with the visits daily, then, perhaps, they just lack communication with you. Try to find for them time. Take a situation in hand, appoint day of a meeting of times a week and you call once a day daily, but. And in an amicable way explain that there is no need to call on 10 times in a day. It is not necessary to retrain the parents. Earlier mother and the father spoke to us about what it is necessary to be that needs to be done. Now, when children grew up, begin to do the same, that is ""to teach"" parents of life. Recognize and accept their freedom. They have the private life, the spiritual purposes, the dreams eventually. Instead of that. to condemn, try to understand and help them to fulfill their dream. It is necessary to support and appreciate the parents at a difficult moment. Accept responsibility for everything that occurs in your life. Of course, what in us was put in the childhood by parents is reflected in our future: behavior models, complexes and fears. But nevertheless to blame and reproach them that at you it was died not so because of the wrong education when to you already for 30, to anything. If the person understands that in his life something not so because of the wrong relation to the world, then it can already change it. After all, it is necessary to be adults. We, without noticing that, all the time ""we are cried"" to mother and the father. And then touches us that they concern us, as to children. When we require to ourselves attention and we want will ego-trip in our maturity at the expense of parents - we thereby again come back to teenage age. That needs to be made now, it to realize the main thing and to hear that mother and the father try to inform us of ours then not to blame herself for the fact that in time did not understand their hints. Kind of it is banal sounded, but parents are the only people to whom not all the same as we have a life.