As a rule, the question of whether it is worth giving birth from the married man, rises before those women who becomes their mistresses. Pregnancy from married can be considered doubly. On the one hand - you cannot hope for the help from the man, with another - you will give rise a small miracle which will please you all life.
If you want to take away quickly by means of pregnancy the man from lawful family, hardly it will bring you happiness. First, men often start affairs which mean nothing to them on the party. Yes, they can tell tender words, convince of fidelity, tell how it is heavy with the spouse, etc. But actually nothing means. The man can not love the wife, but can have to her obligation, attachments.
Yes you never know what occurs there in foreign family what relations connect two people. It is simply indecent to rush into their family life, at least.
Whatever the man spoke, kind of he behaved, it is improbable that it will leave because of you family where everything is convenient, clear and habitual. With the new wife it is necessary to adjust new life, it demands certain efforts. Houses everything settled, everything developed. And affairs with the mistress are only the affairs which are not of great importance for it. Very few people men leave the wife to the pregnant mistress, especially if in this family there are already children, especially, if the man already elderly young man capable to make a fresh start. If you want to attach by means of the child to yourself the man, to take away him from family, then nothing good will turn out. Even if everything will occur as you want, not the fact that your family will develop. It too seldom happens. Especially as if the man already had a novel on the party if it already left once family then why it cannot happen to you? Think whether it is worth trusting such "prince"! Also you remember the known proverb: "On others misfortune not to construct the happiness".
It makes sense to give birth from the married man when you want to give rise for yourself, you do not pursue at the same time mercantile, personal or any other benefits. Passionately you want the child, you prefer to bring up him independently – perfectly, a more power to youmore power to youmore power to you. Only in this case it is not necessary to inform the man and to spoil life to both itself, and him, and the child.
Decided to bring up, then really do it independently, do not impose either yourself, or the kid to the biological father.
The only advantage in the child's birth from the married man is, probably, that if it already has children, it is possible to be sure of health of own child. Certainly, if there everything is normally from this point of view. To give birth or not to give birth from the man who already have family put, of course, especially personal. It is impossible to climb with the councils and recommendations here, everyone has to resolve this issue independently. But it would be desirable to advise something after all: making the similar decision, you participate in the fate of several people – the, the child, the man and his family. Think of it properly whether it is worth charging itself with such heavy responsibility whether it is necessary to regret for today's decision further.