old age usually is associated with kindness, wisdom and softness. But why on the faces of elderly people it is so seldom possible to meet a smile?
Most often elderly people show signs of rage because of diffidence. The rage is a protective reaction of an organism. It is sign of vulnerability. Also the rage is a quite good method to draw attention to itself. For the elderly person is the most sick when he is ignored. He wants it to be noticed, saw and reckoned with it.
Most of elderly people in our country in the life had hard times: lack of stability, crisis, nervous breakdowns, experiences, etc. All this was reflected in mentality and character.
Level of vulnerability of the elderly person depends also on the one whom he was in youth: optimist or pessimist. To become the optimist, it is necessary to make efforts, and it demands a certain work on itself.
What to do to elderly people to be happy?
- It is necessary just to learn to enjoy life, to notice in everything only good. Also it is worth learning to live here and now, to enjoy everyone lived minute. It is not necessary to worry about the future, it did not come yet. If at you everything is good now – rejoice to it if is not present – try to find a way out.
- It is worth paying the attention to the physical exercises light and pleasant. For example, walks with a dog, skiing, visit of dance pavilions, clubs or circles of choral singing.
- Also itself should find interests. It can be a household or creativity. You can undertake a part of household chores. So you will feel more demanded. Surround yourself only with positive and cheerful people.
- Elderly people most of all suffer from loneliness. They feel unnecessary even among close people. They it is more, than others, need a praise, communication, attention, care and a kind word. For such person joy is at least to be listened. It is also important to show to such person that you appreciate his opinion. Ask council, discuss events and be interested in his opinion!
- Sometimes happens that the elderly person begins to manipulate relatives because of fear to remain alone. In this case it is necessary to define accurately the rights and obligations of each party. It is necessary to discuss it most friendly and quietly. You have to show to the elderly person that the harmony is possible only if the interests of all parties are considered.