For most of women leaving of the husband family - the present tragedy. There is mental anguish, there is an offense of which it will turn out to get rid not soon. At once household problems begin – it is necessary to think how to be engaged in the house of one how to raise children how to earn money. Along with it it is necessary to look for answers how to endure leaving of the husband family how to cope with emotional pressure, treachery of darling and the broken heart. In the head the questions "what did I make not so?" constantly turn, "than provoked family breakdown?", "how to return darling if he already with another?". Let's understand whether there was a fault of the woman that the husband preferred to leave family as it is possible to return it and whether it is necessary to do it.
Leaving of the man family: common causes
Not in all cases the leaving of the man family is provoked by presence of the woman on the party. Sometimes she is only an occasion, and the reason is more deeply. There are situations that the man leaves, without having the mistress, just he was bothered by the wife.
According to the statements of psychologists the husband does not desert family suddenly – if he left, so in the relations there were too many problems. Can provoke such step from the man wives, without understanding that.
Of course, not in all cases its leaving means that you the bad wife or the hostess. From it even the most beautiful and economic woman is not insured. The reasons can consist in another.
1. Fell in love with another. The annoying reason because of which to return the husband to family very difficult.
2. Different views, purposes, interests. It is very serious reason of leaving. Different views on life, on the relations, on education of children nullify family wellbeing.
3. The man is not ready to family difficulties. When there are children, the romanticism and sex pass into the background. There are more household and financial problems to which selfish or infantile men are not ready.
4. The wife without interruption saws the spouse. Even the most patient husband can leave the wife who is constantly sawing him. In such situation it is not even necessary to ask a question why men leave family to the mistress – the answer is already obvious.
5. The wife - the bad hostess. If the woman is not able to prepare, to remove, look after herself, the husband and children, then you should not be surprised when the husband packs things and slams the door. He can continue to love the spouse, but her shortcomings outweigh advantages, feelings gradually die away. Emergence on the horizon of the careful, well-groomed and economic woman creating around herself the atmosphere of a cosiness can accelerate leaving.
6. Sex. If you do not give to the husband the chance to satisfy needs of nature without the reasons, special on that, it is logical that he will seek an exit of sexual energy elsewhere and sooner or later will leave family to the mistress.
7. Adherence to principles both. In some families there is an unhealthy situation when spouses so basic and stubborn that do not want to concede each other even in trifles. Such marriage has no future – sooner or later one of spouses will leave, most often it is done by men.
8. Eternal bachelor. In terms of psychology such person feels better when he is one. For this reason he constantly looks for a reason for parting – even after the wedding.
Anyway, but the most part of the left husbands comes back. How to behave if you made the decision to forgive the husband?
How to force the husband to return to family
1. Behave adequately, do not pursue left, do not roll up scenes and do not make scandals - such actions of you will only push away the partner.
2. Try to remain in good relations, perhaps, over time you will approach again, and the husband will understand how much he lost.
3. Work on yourself every day: make toilet, lose weight a little (or just bring a body into a tone), recolour hair to appear in a new image, sign up for culinary courses if you are not able to prepare. Stop being a female saw if it was your problem or to be too basic. Let the husband, seeing you, will think that he made a mistake.
And whether it is necessary to return the man who left?
When the spouse understands that your parting was a mistake, he will try to return. But before it think – whether this return, especially is necessary for you if treachery of the man was caused by his weak character, desire to have a good time on the party and the frivolous relation to marriage. The woman always has a chance to find the worthy elect who, perhaps, was prepared destiny.